I honestly think that one of the big relationship killers, one of the biggest challenges that

modern men face within relationships, is that they don't know how or why they should tell

the women that they're with what they need. And so a lot of guys are needless in their relationships and they feel insecure and they feel

unworthy and they struggle with being the nice guy because that's really what the nice guy is.

The nice guy is like, let me prioritize you and your needs and your wants and your desires

and what you think we should have for dinner

and where we should travel and where you want to go on dates. Let me prioritize all of that for you.

And hopefully, if I do that, then you'll meet my needs in return. And it doesn't work.

You see, one of the biggest things that we as men underestimate when we're in relationships

is how fundamentally attractive it is to a woman when we are direct, when we are transparent.

You know, you've probably heard about those guys or maybe you've even been that guy where

you're outdating and you actually don't want a

relationship and you go on a first date or a second date and the question comes up of like,

oh, hey, what are you looking for? You know, or she's kind of like eluding to the question of,

do you want to be in a long-term relationship? And you're just direct and you say, you know what?

I actually just, I'm just wanting a sexual relationship. I just want to hook up. I just want to be in a long-term relationship. And you're just direct. And you say, you know what? I actually just, I'm just wanting a sexual relationship. I just want to hook up. I just want to have some fun. I'm not actually looking for anything serious. And you're, boom, right there, you're direct. And sure, maybe sometimes some women are going to say, you know, I'm really looking for a committed serious relationship. But for other women, they're going to know exactly where you stand. And it's going to open the door, an invitation. And you're clear and you're

direct. And there's something attractive about that to them, right? They like that you're

honest. They like that you're not bullshitting them or sort of skirting around the issue or creating some

fluff story about where you are in your life or whatever it is. You're just directing. You're saying,

here's what I need. Here's what I'm looking for. Here's what I want. And there's something inherently

attractive to that. And one of the things that I think most men struggle with when they say

things like, I don't know if she's the right one, or I don't

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