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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unruffled.

So this podcast is called Unruffled, and you've heard me share many different perspectives on how to be an unruffled parent,

how to stay calm in all different situations.

But I haven't really zeroed in and talked just about my own personal

favorite mindset, the secret I've used for myself to be able to manage the incredibly uncomfortable challenging task of facing my children's intense emotions.

Before I ended up sharing this little secret back in 2010, I think it was, on my website and it's also in my No Bad kids book I was worried it was too silly it felt embarrassing and that

maybe I'd be laughed at, but I was wrong, I think.

Maybe people are still laughing behind my back about this, there's a good chance of that.

But I've also heard how this advice has encouraged people. I guess there's a lesson in that, that if something

helps you, no matter how personal and silly it might seem, it might yet help someone else.

And that's also why I love sharing your success stories.

And I have one of those to share today.

Sure, it's validating for my efforts when my perspective helps somebody, but I don't share

success stories to toot my horn.

I share them to encourage you that if a certain way of addressing or seeing behavior,

a certain way of responding to it, helped that family, helped that parent, maybe I could brave that too and it would help me.

It gives us more permission, it gives us more inspiration.

Oh, people are really doing some of these things that seem scary and hard and it's working for them.

I'm a fan of Dr. Susan David's work in her book Emotional Agility,

and this is one of my favorite quotes from her.

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