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The Addicted Mind Podcast

TAM+ Episode 43: Breaking Free: Why Shame (Not Guilt) Is Sabotaging Your Recovery

The Addicted Mind Podcast

Duane Osterlind, LMFT

Health & Fitness, Medicine, Mental Health

4.8621 Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2024

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary


Have you ever noticed that after a slip in recovery, your thoughts immediately jump to "I'm worthless" or "I'm never going to get better"? These aren't just random negative thoughts – they're part of a powerful emotion that might be secretly sabotaging your recovery journey. In this eye-opening episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind dive deep into the crucial difference between guilt and shame in addiction recovery. Through evidence-based research and practical experience, they reveal why many people mistakenly identify their shame as guilt, and how this misunderstanding can keep them trapped in the addiction cycle. The hosts share three powerful, scientifically-backed tools that listeners can start using immediately to build shame resilience and strengthen their recovery journey. Whether you're in recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers essential insights into breaking free from the destructive grip of shame while building a healthier relationship with yourself and others.


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KEY TOPICS
  • The critical difference between guilt ("I made a mistake") and shame ("I am a mistake")
  • How toxic shame fuels the addiction cycle
  • Research findings on shame's direct link to substance use problems
  • The importance of shame resilience in recovery
  • Three easy tools for breaking the shame spiral
  • The role of connection and community in overcoming shame
  • Practical language shifts for transforming shame into growth
TIMESTAMPS

[00:01:20] Introduction to shame's impact on recovery

[00:02:31] Research findings on shame vs. guilt in addiction

[00:04:00] How toxic shame creates a negative cycle

[00:08:14] First tool: The Language Shift technique

[00:09:40] Second tool: The Shame Interrupt method

[00:11:00] Third tool: The Connection Practice

[00:13:40] Community resources and next steps



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Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Addicted Mind Plus, the podcast where recovery, mental health, and wellness take the front seat.

0:07.3

I'm Dwayne Austerland, and joining me is my co-host, Eric Osterland, known for his insightful work on the Stuck Brain podcast.

0:14.3

In each episode, we'll dive into actionable, small steps to help those in recovery journey further along the path to wellness.

0:22.3

Our conversations are designed to be concise, typically around 15 minutes, though we may

0:27.0

occasionally delve deeper when the topic demands it. Our goal to provide you with practical

0:32.0

advice grounded in real experiences and expert insights to empower your recovery journey.

0:38.7

So whether you're on a break, on a walk, or just taking a moment for yourself,

0:42.3

join us as we explore the many facets of recovery and mental health, one small step at a time.

0:48.4

This is The Addicted Mind Plus, where your journey to wellness gets an extra boost.

0:53.2

So let's get started.

0:54.0

All right, everyone. Welcome to another episode an extra boost. So let's get started.

0:55.0

All right, everyone.

0:57.9

Welcome to another episode of The Addicted Mind Plus.

0:59.3

My name is Dwayne Oshelan.

1:00.1

I'm your host.

1:02.3

And I'm here with my co-host.

1:04.8

Eric Oshelan, nice to be here today.

1:06.4

I'm excited about this episode.

1:15.7

Yeah, today we're diving into something that might be keeping you stuck in your recovery journey without you even realizing it.

1:17.4

So imagine this.

1:21.3

You've just maybe had a slip in your recovery.

1:23.5

Maybe it's not even that big of a slip. But your first thought is, I'm worthless.

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