TAM+ EP7 The Shame Compass: Navigating Out of Addiction and into Recovery
The Addicted Mind Podcast
Duane Osterlind, LMFT
4.7 • 655 Ratings
🗓️ 22 February 2024
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
In this eye-opening episode, Duane and Eric dive into the often painful topic of shame and how it can trap us in cycles of addiction, anxiety, and self-criticism. They introduce the concept of the shame compass, a tool developed by Donald Nathanson in 1992, which helps us understand the four main ways we deal with shame: withdrawal, attacking self, avoidance, and attacking others. By recognizing these patterns, we can start to navigate our way out of shame and build resilience. The hosts emphasize that no one heals through shame, but by understanding and addressing it, we can break free from negative cycles and live the life we truly want. This episode is not just about the struggles with shame but also offers hope and practical advice for anyone looking to make a positive change in their life.
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Key Topics:
- The impact of shame on addiction and mental health
- Understanding the shame compass and its four directions
- Strategies for building shame resilience
- The importance of addressing shame for recovery
- How to use the shame compass in everyday life
Key Moments Timestamps:
- [00:00] Introduction to the episode and topic of shame
- [01:00] How shame keeps us stuck in negative cycles
- [03:05] History and explanation of the shame compass
- [04:00] Detailed look at the four ways of dealing with shame
- [07:00] Avoidance and its effects on addiction and recovery
- [08:00] Attacking others as a response to shame
- [11:13] Conclusion and resources for listeners
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Addicted Mind Plus, the podcast where recovery, mental health, and wellness take the front seat. |
| 0:07.3 | I'm Dwayne Austerland, and joining me is my co-host, Eric Osterland, known for his insightful work on the Stuck Brain podcast. |
| 0:14.8 | In each episode, we'll dive into actionable, small steps to help those in recovery journey further along the path to wellness. |
| 0:22.3 | Our conversations are designed to be concise, typically around 15 minutes, though we may |
| 0:27.0 | occasionally delve deeper when the topic demands it. Our goal to provide you with practical |
| 0:32.0 | advice grounded in real experiences and expert insights to empower your recovery journey. So whether you're on a |
| 0:39.3 | break, on a walk, or just taking a moment for yourself, join us as we explore the many facets |
| 0:44.5 | of recovery and mental health, one small step at a time. This is The Addicted Mind Plus, where |
| 0:50.6 | your journey to wellness gets an extra boost. So let's get started. All right, Eric, |
| 0:55.1 | we got a great episode today. I am really excited about this episode. We're going to learn a lot from |
| 1:00.4 | it. Yeah, we're going to talk about shame and the shame compass and how it will keep you from |
| 1:06.5 | achieving the life you want and stuck in your addiction cycle. Now, I'm excited about this episode, |
| 1:13.0 | but at the same time, shame is not always a topic that we want to talk about because shame is |
| 1:18.7 | painful. But if we don't talk about it, it's going to keep us from achieving the life we want |
| 1:25.2 | and stuck in that addictive cycle. |
| 1:28.2 | So if you're listening right now, ask yourself, do you criticize yourself often? |
| 1:34.2 | Do you sometimes just want to shrink away from others so that they just can't see you? |
| 1:39.4 | Or you wish you could just be invisible. |
| 1:41.8 | Or maybe you even exaggerate your accomplishments when you're |
| 1:46.3 | with others and build yourself back up. Or you just pretend you don't even care. Or maybe you just point |
| 1:52.8 | out other people's faults when stuff isn't going the right way. Or you keep yourself so busy |
| 1:59.1 | that you don't even have to think about feeling bad about yourself. |
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