TAM+ Ep 55: From Shame to Connection: The Power of Authentic Sharing
The Addicted Mind Podcast
Duane Osterlind, LMFT
4.7 • 655 Ratings
🗓️ 6 February 2025
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
What if the walls you built to protect yourself have become your prison? In this powerful episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric explore how sharing our authentic stories can break the chains of shame in recovery. They dive into why many people get stuck in their recovery journey, despite doing "all the right things," and reveal how authentic sharing can be the missing piece. Drawing from both clinical experience and research by Brené Brown, they explain why shame thrives in silence and how connection can be the antidote. The hosts provide practical, actionable steps for those struggling to share their story, making this complex journey more manageable. Whether you're in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights into the transformative power of authentic connection.
Key Topics:- Understanding how shame creates isolation and perpetuates addictive behaviors
- The role of authentic sharing in building shame resilience
- How to identify and connect with safe people for sharing
- Practical steps for beginning to share your story
- The importance of self-compassion in the sharing process
- Setting healthy boundaries while sharing your story
- The connection between authentic sharing and sustained recovery
[00:01:17] Introduction to shame and authentic sharing
[00:02:54] How silence keeps people stuck in addiction
[00:05:00] Discussion of Brené Brown's research on shame
[00:07:02] The dark room analogy for shame
[00:10:19] Practical steps for sharing your story
[00:12:17] Setting boundaries around sharing
[00:13:51] Resources and worksheet information
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Addicted Mind Plus, the podcast where recovery, mental health, and wellness take the front seat. |
| 0:07.3 | I'm Dwayne Austerland, and joining me is my co-host, Eric Osterland, known for his insightful work on the Stuck Brain podcast. |
| 0:14.3 | In each episode, we'll dive into actionable, small steps to help those in recovery journey further along the path to wellness. |
| 0:22.3 | Our conversations are designed to be concise, typically around 15 minutes, though we may |
| 0:27.0 | occasionally delve deeper when the topic demands it. Our goal to provide you with practical |
| 0:32.0 | advice grounded in real experiences and expert insights to empower your recovery journey. So whether you're on a |
| 0:39.3 | break, on a walk, or just taking a moment for yourself, join us as we explore the many |
| 0:44.1 | facets of recovery and mental health, one small step at a time. This is The Addicted Mind Plus, |
| 0:50.3 | where your journey to wellness gets an extra boost. So let's get started. All right, everyone, |
| 0:55.1 | welcome to the Addicted Mind. Plus, we're on to another episode. I'm here with my co-host. |
| 1:01.0 | Eric Osteland. Great to be here. Excited. And my name is Dwayne Austerlund. And I think we have a |
| 1:07.3 | great episode today. We're going to talk about moving from shame to connection and the power |
| 1:15.5 | of authentic sharing. I love this topic. I mean, shame is a big topic in itself. So we're |
| 1:21.4 | going to just talk about a small piece of it, the authentic sharing part, which I am really |
| 1:26.2 | excited to talk about. So let's dive in. |
| 1:28.8 | All right. Well, this is definitely a stumbling block for a lot of people in recovery, and it's an |
| 1:34.0 | important stumbling block to get through. So here's a quote that I found, and I think it really |
| 1:41.2 | sums it up well. I spent 20 years building walls around my shame, thinking I was protecting myself. |
| 1:49.1 | But those walls became my prison. |
| 1:51.9 | It wasn't until I started sharing my story that I finally found freedom. |
| 1:57.8 | And this is something I hear over and over again in this recovery work. If you stay in |
| 2:05.0 | your shame, you stay in your prison. Absolutely. And I bet most of us know that feeling. I mean, |
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