There was a video clip recently posted on Instagram by Jackie Hill Perry, who is a wife and a mom,

a poet, and a hip-hop artist, and of course a guest writer for us at Desiring God.

We are fans of her work, and the clip that she posted is a really bold and insightful

word to married couples. I'll play the audio for you, Pastor John, and then I want to get your

thoughts. Here's the clip. Question, how often are you honest with your spouse about your

lustful temptation? When it comes to men, I think it might be two reasons why they might be

unwilling to share with their wives about their struggle. One, they like it. They enjoy

entertaining the fact that other women want them, or the ideas that pop up in their minds about what

they could do with other women. That is a hard issue. Two, you women too insecure to take it.

Every time this man want to let you in on what he's struggling with, you want to get in your

feeling. So what you try to say, you will think about another woman, and she was in your dreams.

So you telling me I'm not worth dreaming about now? Girl, calm down. You should let the fact that

he let you in on his heart give you security, and the reassurance that he loves you, letting

our spouses in on our issue gives them the opportunity to hold us accountable and pray for us,

and it uproots any opportunity for Satan to wreak havoc on our marriages through secrets.

She gets to the point. Doesn't she? Faster, John? Well, any thoughts that you would add to

this discussion? Jackie Hill Perry is very thoughtful. She's a thoughtful young woman, and it's

manifest in this penetrating analysis into a man's love affair with lust and a woman's fears

of letting her man talk to her about it. She isn't just blowing steam here. She's seeing

seeing through and seeing into, and that's a great gift that every Christian should aspire to.

Another thing, as I listened, that makes these couple minutes compelling is that she's balanced.

She goes after both men and women in their respective sins and weaknesses. She's not just

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