When his wife became pregnant with their fourth child, Greg panicked, but a focus on the family counselor put everything into perspective.

He said, the first thing you need to realize that kids are a blessing or all of the

blessings that their gifts from God and the second thing you said was kid value

relationships not stuff. I'm Jim Daly let's give more families hope. Any gift you send will be doubled at

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Here is a promise for you. No matter what the struggle is that you're facing in

your marriage today, God can restore you and you can have a better tomorrow.

I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Greg Smalley and today

we're returning to a conversation that focused President Jim Dalyhead with Ann White.

And last time Ann started going through an acrostick she created called

Courage which is a really helpful tool for couples who are thinking of giving up.

And when you look at that acrostic that John mentioned, commit to change, that's the

C, let's get to the O, which is overcome obstacles.

Describe it.

We all have obstacles. No, we don't. Yes we do.

Yes we have a little levity here. In this life we definitely have obstacles.

What do they look like? You know they can be a lot of things they could be our attitude they could be our past and I talk about

What I call in the book the four pests of pressure and four pests of pressure as I began about, God, what is underneath all of my obstacles in life?

What are the things that are kind of at the surface of my obstacles causing me the biggest

issues?

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