When his wife became pregnant with their fourth child, Greg panicked, but a focus on the family counselor put everything into perspective.

He said, the first thing you need to realize that kids are a blessing or all of the

blessings that their gifts from God and the second thing you said was kid value

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You've probably had a moment when you've gotten pretty angry at your spouse, but working through that kind of a moment really can strengthen your relationship.

I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron Smalley and Greg it's amazing how little

irritations build up with time and there's a risk if we don't deal with those in our marriage.

Because you bury every emotion alive.

So all those irritations, all the frustrations, the anger, the hurt, that stuff if you bury it, it's buried alive.

It will fester, it will build up.

So either it's going to explode out and now you're in this massive conflict out of nowhere or worse you just allow

your heart to keep closing and closing until it eventually hardens.

You know just the other night my wife and I were having a very pleasant day and a nice evening and I said

something and it triggered her and she just erupted. I know how she feels.

And that never happens in our house.

The good news is and I thank you for this.

She went to bed and she was she was crying just saying God what was that about and she said

you didn't deserve that and I thought well I probably did something to deserve a little bit

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