Taking a Break In a Relationship: How To Do It Well

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2020

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Are you thinking about taking a break in a relationship? Is it possible to take a break from a relationship and get back together in a healthy way? Last week on the Love + Relationships podcast we talked about the On Again Off Again Relationship, and what to be on the lookout for in that kind of relationship. Today we’re continuing the conversation by talking about taking a break in a relationship, and how to do it in a way that’s actually beneficial for both parties. Taking A Break In A Relationship 101 If you’re thinking about taking a break in a relationship, there are some things you need to do in order to make sure the break is beneficial and well-used. Like I said in the last episode: You can’t just hit the pause button and expect the story to change. You’ve actually got to change the whole story. Find out how taking a break in a relationship can be done in a healthy way, by tuning in 64 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the podcast below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER – SPOTIFY – GOOGLE PLAY – iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: MEET OUR SPONSOR: Check out Abide, the #1 Christian meditation app, by going to: abide.co/love and get 25% off your premium subscription! Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you’re going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It’s a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA’S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra — 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, friends, welcome back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,
0:23.8	and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating, singleness, and marriage.
0:30.4	For those of you who don't know me or are tuning in for the first time, I'm a licensed professional
0:35.1	counselor and author specializing in relationship issues.
0:38.4	I also run the Relationship Advice blog True Love Dates.com, reaching millions of people with the message
0:44.9	that healthy people make healthy relationships.
0:48.5	If you've tuned into the podcast before, you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people
0:53.6	call in or write in with their
0:55.1	relationship questions and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized
1:00.1	answers. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it via email or
1:05.6	voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com or check out my podcast page, true lovedates.com slash love and
1:13.0	relationships. And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the episodes. So let's get
1:17.6	started. My name is Daniel Newman. I am from a small town in Southern Illinois. And my question is,
1:32.4	would you recommend going back into a relationship with the guy that you have previously dated?
1:51.9	Last week on the podcast, we talked about the on-again, off-again relationship. And, you know, I basically said that I don't believe taking a break in a relationship is helpful unless you
1:58.2	are working on change in the interim. You know, I use the analogy of a movie.
2:03.1	And if you are watching a movie and you just press pause and you walk away from a month or two or a year or five years and you come back and you press play, that movie is going to end the same way as it would have before you pressed pause.
2:19.3	In order to change something, you can't just press pause.
2:24.1	You've got to change the entire movie if you want the ending to change.
2:27.8	You've got to change the entire story.
2:30.7	And that's exactly how I view taking a break in a relationship.
2:34.9	You know, I, I've worked with people.
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