SYSK Choice: Why Complainers Complain and How to Stop Them & How Gaslighting Works

Something You Should Know

Mike Carruthers | OmniCastMedia

Education, Social Sciences, Self-improvement, Science, Health & Fitness

4.5 • 4.3K Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2020

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

If you would like to feel really good, then watch this YouTube video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CHiKxytbCWk. It’s a dull and boring video about folding towels and will make you (or at least many people) get chills and give you a “brain orgasm.” Why? No one really knows for sure but I’ll explain what is known about it as I start this episode. Do you know a complainer? It’s a trick question because you probably know a lot more than one. In fact, you might be a complainer without realizing it. Cianna Stewart has studied the subject of complaining in great detail and even wrote a book on it called, No Complaints: How to Stop Sabotaging Your Own Joy (http://amzn.to/2CNYU1M ). Listen as she reveals why some people complain about every little thing and strategies to stop yourself from complaining and to stop complainers from complaining. A lot of the time you use the word “that” in a sentence, it is totally unnecessary. Oh, and so is “totally” as in totally unnecessary. I’ll have a list of words you probably use that you don’t really need to – in fact you really shouldn’t. https://www.themuse.com/advice/15-words-you-need-to-eliminate-from-your-vocabulary-to-sound-smarter You may have people in your life who “gaslight” you. It is a form of manipulation and it is very toxic. Therapist Robin Stern, author of the book, The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life (https://amzn.to/2M8RzyP), joins me to explain how it works and how to defend yourself from gaslighters. PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! https://monday.com https://bestfiends.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I just learned Discover Credit Cards do something pretty awesome.
0:05.2	At the end of your first year, they automatically double all the cash back you've earned.
0:10.7	That's right, everything you've earned doubled.
0:13.6	All the cash back from eating at your favorite soup dumpling restaurant?
0:17.6	Doubled.
0:18.6	All the cash back from that trip you sort of learned how to snowboard?
0:22.7	Also doubled.
0:23.9	And the best part, you don't have to do anything ridiculous to get it.
0:27.5	Oh, Discover does it automatically.
0:30.5	Seriously though, see terms and check it out for yourself at Discover.com slash match.
0:57.5	This is simply bad.
1:04.5	Also, there are some words people use in speech and writing that are usually unnecessary.
1:12.5	I'll tell you which ones.
1:14.4	And have you ever been the victim of the gas light effect?
1:18.3	The gas light effect describes what happens to you when you begin to second guess yourself
1:23.6	because you've allowed another person to define your reality and to erode your sense of
1:28.3	self, your confidence and your judgment or even their character.
1:33.2	All this today on something you should know.
1:38.3	I just learned Discover Credit Cards do something pretty awesome.
1:43.0	At the end of your first year, they automatically double all the cash back you've earned.
1:48.6	That's right, everything you've earned doubled.
1:51.4	All the cash back from eating at your favorite soup dumpling restaurant?
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