Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now.

And you're listening to the Flying Free Podcast,

a support resource for Women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 246 of the Flying Free Podcast.

Today we're going to meet Shelley, who was a member of Flying Free for two years, and she's been a member of Flying Free for two years and she's been a member of Flying Higher for a year this month, I think.

It will be one year this month.

And Shelly was married for how many years?

11 years 11 years okay this recent time I was married before that too but okay and how long have you been divorced now our divorce was final in February of 2022. Okay, so a year and a half. Okay. So we're going to find out what her journey was like for her up and out what that looked like and at the very end we'll ask her what kind of

advice she might have to offer those of you who are listening or and maybe are on your own journey of discovery and

healing. Okay so Shelley and maybe we should I don't know if you want to talk at all how and when maybe we should I don't know if you want to talk at all about your other marriage is Is it one other marriage besides this one?

I can give a little bit on that. I guess it helps for background. So I was married for five years that time and if

if I had had any of this information at that time my recent marriage

never would have happened but we had two daughters we separated and then

divorced when they were one and four he was a cheater.

And so that was another reason why I didn't really look into, I mean that was just a symptom

of the bigger problem, which I didn't realize at the time like people are more

accepting I think of divorce when there's that kind of stuff going on yeah yeah of course and I

forgave him the first time and then it had happened again and I was going to you know the girls were so little and I was going to forgive him again because I just couldn't imagine living apart from my children part of the time or you know the disaster and chaos that would bring into our family but then there was there was all this other stuff underneath and family things that I didn't even know about that came out during our separation and process and he was just so awful during the separation process that I just yeah there was no question of forgiving and getting back together and going on like before.

I just had to do the divorce and it was horrible, but and I didn't learn quite enough.

I didn't learn as much as I should have from that experience but so that my guess is that you learned what you you learned what you had at the time available to you right?

And that's all we can do. Yeah.

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