Hey there. Welcome back to the Naked Marriage podcast. We are Dave and Ashley Willis and on this podcast we address the truth about sex intimacy and lifelong love.

And I don't know about you, but Dave and I have been having so much fun talking about the sexy summer quickies and today we're going to talk about question number four.

And it's a really spicy one. Maybe our spiciest yet. Maybe I you know, I don't want to give too much away, but we could say that in some ways, this is a climax of

of the whole series. And we're going to have a lot of fun with it. I know I am. I'm very cheesy. And I also just get excited talking about I get really excited.

Huge smile on his face watching you talk about sex. So it's a turn on. It's really funny. So we're going to have fun with this episode. And thank you guys for

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Well, this I think is probably Dave's favorite question so far. And how could it not be we're talking about the big O orgasm. How do we both climax? And if you've been listening to this

podcast for a while, you know, we have an entire episode devoted to orgasm that goes into greater detail. But we're going to talk about that today. How both partners can experience the climax when it comes to sex because so many times we hear from people who say, you know, I'm just not quite getting there. And I'm

not going to be talking about my spouse does, but I don't and my spouse, you know, they're trying, but we're not quite on the same page when it comes to that. Yeah. And this takes a lot of vulnerability, a lot of patients. And really again, we keep going back to this theme of serving each other. Of how can I serve my spouse's needs to help get him or her to that point. And to do whatever whatever is necessary to help make sure that they experience that beautiful moment of fulfillment. Right. And ideally, you know, I think if you put too much pressure on your sex,

you're going to have to do it yourself to think you both have to climax at the exact same time. There are so many factors that are just way out of your control for that to happen. I don't even think that should be the goal. I think that when that happens, it can be just like a really cool. Oh, wow, that was amazing. It's kind of like seeing a solar eclipse. Everything just aligns just right. But the bigger goal should be that how do we make sure that we both enjoy sex? We both you connected to one another that it's a beautiful time of connection physically, spiritually, emotionally. And then both of us. Climax.

We're both satisfied. They're both satisfied. There might be some, you know, sometimes where it's it's just a quickie and one of you just really needs it. And it's just about that one person in that moment. But for just the typical, you know, love making sessions, where it's really about both of you.

How do you how do you get there? And I think that you have to you have to talk a lot about it. What is feeling good to you? What what could I do to kind of help help get you there? And to be willing to do whatever, you know, tell each other where, you know, what we said,

you know, where and how you want to be touched. If you're a guy and you've got an issue with premature ejaculation just to get real practical, I think that's an issue sometimes where that's what's keeping the woman from experiencing orgasm as the guy is just going way too quickly. And there are there are products and resources and wipes you can get that are kind of desensitizing to help you help you delay that. So there are resources to help with all of that. If you're a lady and it's there, you know, maybe some of you know, I think that's a really good thing.

There are, you know, maybe some medical issues or you're not sure why you're not orgasm. You're not experiencing the orgasm. We have another episode in the past. It's expectations. Part two where we interview just a really great professional.

pelvic floor special. Yes, I didn't know what pelvic floor was, but it's the group of muscles, you know, that that are like largely connected to, you know, the experience of orgasm and she she talks through and just very, very practical and clinical ways of how to how to experience that if you're not so there are resources, but you've got to be willing to talk about these things and you have to make it a goal and a priority for both of you to fully experience and enjoy sex.

That's right. And I think that if if one is consistently able to experience an orgasm and the other is not, I think you might need to try new positions. You know, I think that, you know, sometimes especially for women, there's certain positions that really get them there and there's certain ones that maybe get their husband there, but don't really work for them. So again, just because you're not climating at the same time doesn't mean you just stop. You know, if one ends up climaxing early, try another position for the other partner. So that way, you know, you both can be satisfied and just you have to you have to be open and honest with them.

So that's what we're talking about with each other and like we said in previous episodes, maybe not in the moment because it could really kill the mood, but really like later on, maybe after, you know, you've had sex maybe the next day, just talk about it and say, you know, that was really good, but maybe we could try this position next time or maybe we could try this for play, you know, before hand next time because I feel like that'll get me more in the mood because as we've talked about a lot through many of our podcasts, it usually takes women a lot longer to get to that point that it does for men. And so husbands, you have to be patient and be willing to take

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So, we're trying to put our spouses needs ahead of our own in those moments. We end up enjoying sex even more as a result. We really, really do. And so that's the best kind of sex is when both of you are making it your mission to maximize the pleasure of the other person instead of just maximizing your own pleasure.

And realizing that by allowing your spouse to pleasure you you're actually also pleasureing them by giving them that experience of experiencing pleasure mutually. So, serve each other be patient with each other talk to each other. And don't be intimidated don't be discouraged when things aren't going exactly as you want them to go. This is a journey and it's a process and it's something that you'll get better at with time. And then also with time sometimes time will reshuffle the deck because of.

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