Success Won’t Save You: How to Rebuild When Identity, Culture & Confidence Collapse | Tom Bilyeu AMA (Fan Fav)
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🗓️ 5 May 2025
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Tom answers questions from the community.
ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 2-6-19
SHOWNOTES:
How to love the process of getting better at whatever you want while overcoming self doubt and lack of confidence [2:11]
The new secret to success [5:09]
Where to draw the line with “everything is my fault” [9:02]
How to reward yourself when you stick with your goals and defeat negative habits [13:48]
How to outperform people’s perceptions of you and bury people with results [20:51]
How to avoid burnout at work [27:27] What to do if you’ve lost your “why” [31:33]
How to improve your mindset to overcome your weaknesses and develop mental resilience [38:04]
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| 0:00.0 | All right. First question. Comic or tragic? My passion to stand-up comedy. I've been pursuing |
| 0:06.8 | it for three years, and I've definitely gotten better since my first open mic. However, my biggest hurdle is my |
| 0:12.5 | confidence. I feel very judged by other comics on the quality of my jokes, my stage presence, |
| 0:18.2 | etc. Because of this, I feel I'm not progressing as fast as I want |
| 0:22.6 | because I'm so scared. Once my set is over, I feel ashamed that I was so scared on stage. |
| 0:28.1 | I am I afraid of them seeing the real me? How do I teach myself to love instead of hate the process |
| 0:35.3 | of building my set in front of comics that I believe are |
| 0:38.4 | judging me. All right. So here's the great news. Those comics are judging you and some of them |
| 0:42.9 | are really hoping that you're going to fail. Here's what you have to keep in mind. Never judge |
| 0:48.7 | yourself through the lens of a moment. Judge yourself through the lens of a lifetime and know this about humans. |
| 0:55.4 | On a long enough timeline, you can get extraordinary at anything. |
| 1:01.0 | Now, it doesn't mean that it's going to be equal that as you put in energy and the person |
| 1:05.9 | next to you puts in the same amount of energy, that you're both going to get the same result. |
| 1:09.4 | There is such a thing as a |
| 1:11.2 | natural predilection towards something. Some people pick things up faster than others. And I always tell |
| 1:16.0 | people, don't worry about that. Worry about how much you love the process. Because the process |
| 1:22.0 | is all the matters. You may never. You may never, much to my dismay, you may never become the hot comedian but if you love the process |
| 1:30.3 | of getting good at it if you're open-minded if you actually want to learn if your actual self-esteem |
| 1:37.8 | your pride is tied up not in whether you go out and kill as a comic, but whether you're able to move through the nights |
| 1:45.7 | where you're just absolutely failing, that you can in the moment remind yourself that this is |
| 1:50.4 | just practice, that when someone's heckling you, that you're actually looking at, hmm, |
| 1:54.1 | are they right about something? Or if they're giving you that kind of negative feedback live, |
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