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Hello everyone, happy Sunday. Hope you guys are having a great start. We're in the beginning of the end or end of the beginning of the weekend.

And so I wanted to make a video for you today or podcasting and I was going to originally call this how to deal with shit but instead I'm going with no pain, no gain.

And so I wanted to outline two of the strategies that I think have helped me become more resilient in the face of like mental strife.

And I think that as we continue to grow in entrepreneurship and the size of our country's grow impact, etc. Like having strong processes, mental processes in place in order to safeguard yourself become more and more important.

And so one of the ones that I wanted to bring up is around anger. And so I think whenever anything bad happens, right.

There's typically one of two responses. Either you become angry or you become sad, right. Sometimes they happen in different order. You know, like some people never get sad.

So we want to get angry. So we'll be about, you know, it's just kind of it's a mix. I can really only speak to the anger side because I'm just not.

I'm not like a sad like I just don't go that way like when something bad happens because immediately even if I'm a feeling of sadness, I get angry with myself for feeling that way for feeling weak and not taking control and then I get angry.

You know what I mean. So it's almost immediate. But then then what happens is when you do with that anger. And so for I dive into that, it's just like, why do we get angry? Right. We get angry because typically we feel wronged. Right. And so that immediately comes from a place of elevation.

Like you feel like you were above something. How dare someone do something to you and it's typically someone who you brought into your circle, who then betrays you in a certain way, whatever that. Now in a business context, there's, there's lots of different types of betrayal and relationships. There's lots of different types of control.

But usually it's just you feel wrong, right. It's it's typically when a promise is made or an unspoken promise is made and then it is broken. Right. And then that is where you feel like justice is warranted. Right.

So since you don't see that person suffering for the feeling that you have, you want to make them suffer. Right. And that's kind of kind of where the anger comes from, at least to my to my understanding. So how do you deal with this? Right.

Because the bigger you get, the more times we were going to break things or break what you perceive to be relationships and do things that are wrong. Like the amount of times we, I mean, just I wish I could give you a longer list of all the things that have happened. You know what I mean? To give context. But like.

And any partnership stealing money like, I mean, like literally, you know, like employees going behind your back trying to tell people to refund against you and that they're going to do something for like everything you can possibly imagine. Right. You know, just everything you can imagine has happened. Right.

And so the thing is like, I think that in order to continue to grow, you need to have really strong processes in place in order to process these things where they will destroy you. Right. They'll destroy you.

And so there's two cornerstone stories that shaped my life that I wanted to share with you. So the first one is from when I was in high school, when I was in ninth grade, I'd have to teach your name Steve Gibbons, he's the one who stayed with me after school.

A lot of the after school donations stuff that we do is is a big part because of that. And he worked out with me after school every day. And so when I was in ninth grade, I remember I was such an angry kid, but I think a lot of people are, you know, I mean, ninth grade like you're confused your kid, whatever.

But I was I was a pretty angry kid and he I was like, man, I can't wait to come back at the high school reunion. I'm going to show everyone you know, blah blah blah blah. And he was like,

that doesn't that doesn't actually work in reality. And I was like, what do you mean is where I was like, I'm going to show them. And he was like, if you actually come back 10 years from now and you go up to somebody who's like, but you and you tell them that like, look at you now, he's like, you're going to look like an idiot.

Because they're going to know that you've been thinking about them this whole time and they didn't even think about you like they forgot you existed.

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