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Stuck in the Freeze Response? How to convert Toxic Stress into Healthy Action #teamwater

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 658 Ratings

🗓️ 29 August 2025

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

Toxic stress isn’t just having too much to do—it’s getting stuck in the Freeze Response, and this can fuel depression. When overwhelmed by stress, trauma, or global problems, our brain may default to the freeze response—shutting down, avoiding, or numbing out. While this can feel comforting short-term, over time it dysregulates the nervous system, increases cortisol, and fuels anxiety and depression. Stress is meant to mobilize us to act; suppressing that drive makes it toxic. Small, purposeful actions restore flow—re-engaging the prefrontal cortex, calming the limbic system, and activating the ventral vagus nerve. This is where service for mental health shines: helping others boosts dopamine, oxytocin, and resilience, breaking the freeze cycle. Acts of kindness, whether raking a neighbor’s yard, volunteering, or donating, create the “helper’s high” and increase well-being. Service brings purpose, which turns discomfort into joy. Even brief, local, face-to-face kindness reduces loneliness and strengthens connection. You don’t have to solve everything—consistent small actions aligned with your values can transform toxic stress into healthy engagement, proving that even little ripples can change the world. Learn the skills to regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership. Donate at https://teamwater.org/ Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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0:00.0

Welcome back to another episode of the Therapy in a Nutshell podcast. I'm Emma McAdam and I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist.

0:07.0

And this podcast is all about taking the life-changing, but usually kind of complicated topics of therapy and boiling them down into simple, easy-to-understand concepts that you can use in your daily life.

0:18.8

If you find today's episode as helpful to you,

0:20.9

please pass it on to someone else who could benefit from it as well. Each podcast

0:24.5

episode comes from a corresponding video you can find on the Therapy in a Nutshell YouTube

0:28.6

channel. Also, these podcasts are educational and don't replace the advice or direction

0:33.1

you may be receiving from a therapist or other health professionals. Now please enjoy the episode.

0:38.9

Here's my unpopular opinion for the day. Toxic stress isn't caused by having too much to do.

0:44.1

It's caused by inaction. Stick with me here. It's easy to feel like the world is going to hell in a

0:50.4

handbasket. It can seem super overwhelming to see the suffering caused by injustice

0:55.0

or corruption or war. Or maybe you just feel overwhelmed by problems at home or at work.

1:02.0

And to be honest, sometimes this makes me want to curl up in bed and hide. Like this is a natural

1:08.0

response to seeing so many problems around us. But in this video you're going to learn how to overcome the freeze response and turn toxic stress into healthy action.

1:21.6

Now when we're overwhelmed by stress or trauma, even when it's another person's pain, our brain can go into a freeze response. This is

1:29.3

part of our built-in survival system. Fight, flight, freeze. It's what helps us survive

1:34.3

real danger. But in modern life, this freeze often shows up as shutdown, avoidance, or numbness.

1:41.8

And let's be honest, when the world feels stressful, inaction can feel really comforting.

1:48.0

You know what I mean, like watching the office for the hundredth time or scrolling Instagram just to see more funny dog videos.

1:55.0

For a little while this inaction feels better than stress, but the longer we stay stuck in that freeze response, the more

2:02.1

dysregulated our nervous system becomes. It's like what happened here. Let me show you,

2:07.7

where they took a flowing river and they dammed it up. We have all this stress energy

2:14.4

and we just shut down. Like stagnant water, our thoughts become cloudy. Rumination takes

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