How did I balance marriage, fatherhood, and a demanding career?

Well, I stopped wasting time. That helped a lot. I stopped drinking. I stopped going to bars.

I really didn't spend a lot of time with my friends when I had young kids in particular.

I had friends and I saw them, you know, with some degree of regularity, but where I cut corners was

more with social life outside my family. So I spent a lot of time with my wife and I spent a lot

of time with my kids and I spent a lot of time on my career. And so you have to make choices.

And I think those were reasonable choices. I'm not displeased with them. Don't abandon your

friendships, but you can certainly look at where you're wasting time and just stop doing things that

you know to be a waste of time. So, and I did. The funny thing is if you're trying to stop drinking,

you need something better than alcohol. And alcohol is pretty good. So you better find something a lot

better, man. Yeah. And then it is. And then estimable people do estimable things. It's like,

yeah, well, you want to figure out you want to figure out something that you're doing with your life

that's worth not getting drunk and screwing up because that's fun. I concentrated on my marriage

and making time for it. I concentrated on spending time with my kids consciously and I concentrated

on developing my career. Those were the three elements of my life. And I had some time left over

for creative pursuits and for friends. But most of it was a matter of getting rid of

time wastes of any sort. And I just pushed that out of my life day after day until I wasn't

wasting any time or virtually no time. And I've asked my undergraduates frequently how much time

they waste per day and general estimates are like six to eight hours of time. They regard themselves

as wasting. Like that's a whole career right there, right? So if you just stop wasting time,

you can do a tremendous amount, especially if you also try to maximize efficiency. And I always

found that incredibly motivating, you know, I'm motivating game. How much can I do in the least

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