Stop Waiting for Your Husband to Die so You Can Live [193]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

5.0 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 18 October 2022

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

If marriage is for life, then the only way out is death. Right? I’ve been asked that question, or a variation of it, many times. I used to wonder that question myself. Marriage IS for life, but not in the way you’ve been told. It’s for the sake of bringing life TO you. And when it’s destroying you instead, THERE IS A WAY OUT. But the very Bible verses written to bring protection to abused women and rebuke to abusive men have been twisted and turned on their heads…until the words “for life” are a curse and death seems like the only escape (whether his or yours). Allow me to right these warped words and help you fly free from your despair. In this episode: - Why you might reconsider telling church leaders about your husband’s abusive behavior - The four reasons women consider “telling on” their husbands to church leaders (and the problems with each) - The four possible responses you can expect when you report your abusive husband’s behavior to church leaders (helping the victim is the rarest) - Why the “God hates divorce” verse is COMPLETELY WRONG and what it really says - The 8 things you don’t owe ANYONE (at church or otherwise) when it comes to leaving your marriage - The only two things you absolutely need to get out of your marriage (and they’re available no matter your circumstances) - Why wishing your abusive husband were dead doesn’t mean you’re an evil person - How I went from lying on a bathroom floor wishing for death to flying free, remarried, with a new home, a new family, and an amazing job (and my story isn’t unique among Flying Free and Flying Higher survivors) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/193 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free
0:10.2	podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.6	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:22.4	Welcome to episode 193 of the Flying Free Podcast.
0:27.0	Today I'm going to answer a couple of listener questions,
0:30.0	but before we do that, I want to share something that one of our active members wrote
0:35.1	This particular member is such a huge encouragement to everyone in our private forum. She's funny
0:41.7	She's real. She is just the kind of person that you want to hang
0:45.3	out with and I am honored to share something that she had to say about her involvement in
0:50.7	our Flying Free program.
0:52.1	I thought I was stuck with a fraud. in our flying free program.
0:58.0	I thought I was stuck with a fraud, enduring a life sentence, and it was probably punishment for my 20s.
1:05.2	My Christian husband used scripture, criticism, and anger to control, manipulate, and isolate me. I was a martyr for my kids, sacrificing like Jesus to keep them in a two-parent home.
1:10.7	I chased the elusive dream of getting organized enough to keep the peace.
1:15.0	I felt hopelessness and regret when thinking of my personal future.
1:19.0	In the volatile early years of marriage I felt angry.
1:22.0	I started lying and stuffing my thoughts
1:24.3	and feelings to keep the peace several years into the marriage my soon to be
1:28.9	ex repentant of his sin I fell on the floor and sobbed amazed at God's grace. I was so relieved to stop
1:35.4	walking on eggshells and thought my marriage was great as I no longer wondered how I would
1:39.9	fake cry at his funeral. But after more years I felt numb and resigned using
1:45.3	dissociation to survive. And then one day I googled the effects on children
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