How do you trust God when your adult child is struggling? I'm John Fuller with Dr.

Danny Huerta who heads up our parenting department and we're going to answer that question at least to some

degree today. Let's hear now from Allison Botkey. She was with us last time

speaking with Jim Daly about an acronym she created called Sanity, which is all about having healthy boundaries

with your adult kids.

And today they kind of unpack that

and talk about the S in sanity.

Starting back with S for Stop N. Yes, insanity.

Starting back with S for stop negative behavior, give examples of what parents are doing

wrong to enable their adult children.

Stop the flow of money is a big one for things that have to stop it's very individual for all of us. We're not all making these you know the like mistakes

But typically the big ones are stop the flow of money, stop making excuses, stop coming to the rescue,

you know, stop being a landing pad for your child, you know, stop your own issues, stop your own

fear, fear. If you can stop your own fear, if you can stop fear,

if you can stop, stop being a prisoner to fear and guilt.

And that's that there's a lot of stops.

I had pages of stops, Jim.

No, that's good.

Edna was a woman that was working three jobs and what was she doing with all that energy

and the money she was making from three jobs?

Why was she working three jobs?

She was covering the car payment for her daughter who had this very fancy SUV.

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