Brut McKay here and welcome to another edition of the Art of Manliness Podcast.

Do you ever have moments of terrible realization where you recognize that you're living on autopilot?

Instead of feeling like you're in the driver's seat, you feel like life is happening to you.

You're just going through the motions you've lost your spark in the months and years slide by an indistinct blur.

My guest day has been there himself and as an action plan for how to find your way out. His name is Antonio Neves.

He's a writer, speaker, and success coach as well as the author of Stop Living on autopilot.

Take responsibility for your life and rediscover a bolder, happier you.

At the start of our conversation, Antonio shares his own experience with outwardly having a life that seemed happy and successful while inwardly feeling totally lost and stuck.

We then turn to some great and decisive questions to ask yourself to assess your co-signing life and become more accountable to the changes you need to make to start intentionally steering your life again.

We talk about what you're really missing when you say you missed the good old days, how to ensure the best of your life is ahead of you instead of behind you, and why you need to make a list of all your complaints.

We then discuss the importance of who you surround yourself with, why you need allies instead of thieves in your circle, and the difference something called man mornings has made in Antonio's life.

And we enter conversation with the concrete steps you can start taking today to shift out of autopilot, including Antonio's personal checklist of five things he does every day to ensure it's a good one.

After the show's over, check out our show notes at aam.islashautopilot.

Antonio joins you now via clearcast.io.

Antonio Neves, welcome to the show.

Hey, thanks so much for having me. It's an honor to be here.

So you got a new book out. Stop living on autopilot, take responsibility for your life, and rediscover a bolder, happier you.

This book is sort of a culmination of experiences you've had personally, as well as coaching and working with other people, executives and things like that.

And you start off the book talking about how 2016 was one of these pivotal years in your life and career.

And you describe how on the outside everything looked like it was going great, but in your personal life, in your inner life, it was a wreck.

What was going on there and how were you both a success in a wreck at the same time?

Yeah, it's wild because if you looked at the internet in 2016, if you did a Google search, you know, I was living my best life ever.

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