Stop Idealizing Others

Shrink For The Shy Guy

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Careers, Business, Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 649 Ratings

🗓️ 3 September 2014

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Do you sometimes see others as "better" than you. Perhaps you think they are very confident, successful, powerful, or charismatic. You see them and are impressed. When you look at yourself by comparison, you feel inferior and "less-than."

Join Dr. Aziz as he helps you break this habit of comparison. You'll see how you can "idealize" others, seeing them as better than they really are. You also can "devalue" yourself and not be able to see your own strengths and values.

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0:00.0	Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon, welcome to shrink for the shy guy,
0:08.1	helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination. With your host, Dr. Rezzez.
0:17.7	Welcome to this week's episode of shrink for the shy guy.
0:21.5	Today we're going to get into that pattern that you probably do because I do it and everyone I know does it.
0:28.3	It's just a matter of how much you do it and if you can turn it down a bit.
0:32.2	Because the more you do it, the more you suffer, and the less that you do it, that you better you feel.
0:36.5	So what is this pattern I'm talking about?
0:38.5	Well, the name of the show is called Stop Idealizing Others.
0:42.6	And it's a pattern of idealizing others.
0:44.8	And if you're not familiar with that word, to idealize means to only see the good in someone
0:50.3	and then to magnify it to inhuman proportions.
0:53.8	You see them as all amazing, all superior,
0:57.4	all perfect, all good, all confident, all skilled, just the good. They have no flaws. They're
1:04.0	amazing. They're perfect. They don't suffer with the same things that the rest of us urchins suffer
1:08.8	from. And what ends up happening is you have this
1:11.2	very distorted vision of that person. You don't see them very accurately. So have you done this in
1:17.9	your life? Have you seen someone who looked really amazing and tend to kind of build them up in
1:21.6	your mind as really perfect or as having it all together? I'm sure you have. We all do this.
1:27.4	So this episode is about how to identify that, how to break free of that, and then or is having it all together. I'm sure you have. We all do this.
1:29.7	So this episode is about how to identify that,
1:30.8	how to break free of that,
1:33.4	and then really start to accept yourself as you are more and more realistically see others.
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