I am Mission Laciani, founder of Mind Valley, the School for Human Transformation.

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Most of us are not huge on the concept of forgiveness. We like it in theory. We've heard those

quotes that get attributed to Buddha about anger being a hot cold that burns

the person holding it. On paper it sounds nice nice in practice it's a little bit more

difficult than that we want to let go of the anger we feel towards our ex

friends our ex-lovers our parents but doing so doesn't sit right with us. We think those people don't deserve

our empathy, and maybe we're right, maybe they don't. But here's the problem with the way

our minds work. The more we focus on something, the more it grows, the more our

minds spawn patterns around that thing, and after enough time spent fuming internally,

the pain that we are feeling doesn't live in the past anymore.

It invites itself into the present.

Holding on to anger means that you're refreshing your pain every time you think about that

situation where you got screwed.

Every time you interact with someone who reminds you of that person who betrayed you.

Every time you look in the mirror and remember that you bit the line, you fell for the trick, you signed

onto that deal you shouldn't have. Your mind internalizes that feeling and it integrates

it into the way it thinks about the future.

Your mind goes, okay, person A hurt me in the past,

which means I definitely shouldn't trust person B.

My first business ended up failing,

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