Stop Being So Nice | DR. AZIZ GAZIPURA
Order of Man
Ryan Michler
4.8 • 9K Ratings
🗓️ 30 October 2018
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
One of the most common challenges I see men face is their inability to overcome being too nice. Don't get me wrong, being nice is great but when it comes at the expense of your own well-being, it becomes a problem.
Today, I am joined by psychologist, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, to talk about the pitfalls of being too nice. We cover the "guilt bubble" and how to get out of it, the costs of being overly nice, learning to speak up and develop healthy boundaries, and how to stop being so nice.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
- What does it mean to be "nice"
- How being overly nice is self-sabotaging
- What the "guilt bubble" is and how to get out of it
- The costs of being too nice
- How to liberate yourself
- How to establish healthy boundaries
- Learning to speak up
- Why being selfish is not always a bad thing
- How to choose and communicate your rules
- Strategies for improving your ability to say "no"
- How to care about others without jeopardizing yourself
- How to increase your discomfort tolerance
- How to "own your shadows"
- How to develop more assertiveness
DR. AZIZ GAZIPURA
Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence.
In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety. He has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence. Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of.
Most recently, he wrote a book titled, Not Nice: Stop Pleasing People, Staying Silent, and Feeling Guilty, which is what he's here to talk with us about today.
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| 0:00.0 | One of the most common challenges I see men face is their inability to overcome being too nice. |
| 0:05.4 | Now, don't get me wrong. Being nice is great, but when it comes at the expense of your own |
| 0:10.2 | well-being, it becomes a problem. So today, I am joined by psychologist Dr. Aziz Ghazi Perra to talk |
| 0:16.4 | about the pitfalls of being too nice. We cover what he calls the guilt bubble and how to get out of it, |
| 0:22.0 | the cost of being overly nice, learning to speak up and develop healthy boundaries, and how to stop |
| 0:28.1 | being so nice. You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest, embrace your fears, |
| 0:33.3 | and boldly charge your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, |
| 0:38.6 | every time. You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your life, |
| 0:45.7 | this is who you are, this is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and |
| 0:51.2 | done, you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan |
| 0:56.9 | Mickler and I am the host and the founder of this podcast, The Order of Man. I want to welcome you, |
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| 1:13.6 | dismissing it. I see more and more confusion about what it means to be a man. And of course, I see |
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