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Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself TODAY

Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Violet Benson

Ted Talks, Self Help, Health & Fitness, Millenials, Gen Z, Toxic, Healing, Education, Zodiac Signs, Kim Kardashian, Mental Health Expert, Violetta Benson, #Pop Culture, Violet Benson, Call Her Daddy, Celebrities, Celebrity News, Comedy Podcast, Single, Expert, Personal Growth, Jewish, Manifesting, Violetta, Personal Journals, Mental Health, Self Love, Breakups, Francesca Farago, Lgbtq, Daddy Issues, Love And Relationships, Dating Advice, Stand Up Comedy, Dating And Relationships, Adulting, Self Improvement, 30s, Lifestyle, Society & Culture, Life Coach, Dating, Comedy, Self-improvement, Female Empowerment, Jay Shetty, Relationships, Being 30, Influencer, Astrology, Creator

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🗓️ 8 July 2025

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

Why are we so f*cking mean to ourselves?

This week, we’re diving deep into that nonstop voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, hot enough, just... not enough. You’ll find out why it exists, how it got there, and how to finally shut it the hell up.

We’re talking:

· The real science behind your inner critic (yes, it’s a thing - it’s called the Default Mode Network)

· Why comparing yourself to everyone on the internet is literally frying your brain (hi, Social Comparison Theory)

· How to mentally separate from that toxic inner voice (Cognitive Diffusion, b*tch)

· And how to give yourself the kind of love you’re always chasing from other people (Radical Self-Compassion...look it up, it’s life-changing)

By the end of this, you’re going to understand that being hard on yourself isn’t some personality trait - it’s a survival habit you can unlearn. And we’re doing it together, one savage thought at a time.

This episode is science, sass, and self-respect. Let’s go.


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Transcript

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0:00.0

So this past week, I totally crashed out to reading four books in that one week of blood and ash.

0:08.9

I don't know if anyone else out there has read it, but I swear to God, I immersed myself so much into the book that I sort of full on criticizing the way the writer was writing some of the characters, some of the plot,

0:22.4

that I took it so personally, I became her number one hater. I mean, I saw read. After the fourth

0:27.7

book, I stopped reading after the middle of it and I just decided to not read anymore and I took

0:32.4

it personally. I saw red that I started just venting about it, complaining to everyone who would

0:37.2

listen to me. First of all, I get the venting about it, complaining to everyone who would listen to me.

0:38.0

First of all, I get the spicy scenes.

0:41.2

But it got to the point that there were so many of the same spicy scenes over and over again

0:46.4

that it felt like Poppy would say, oh, my mom died.

0:50.1

And her dude would be like, well, I just want to bang you.

0:52.9

She'd be like, oh, I just woke up.

0:53.9

He's like, I just want to bang you. She'd be like, oh, I just woke up. He's like, I just want to bang you.

0:55.0

She's like, I clog the toilet.

0:56.0

He's like, I just want to bang you.

0:57.0

It's like, dude, chill.

0:59.0

And this is also in the prequel.

1:00.3

And honestly, I don't know if it's just me, but whoever is married to the author of From Blood and ash, may I beg them to please eat this lady out so she can finally stop writing

1:14.4

about it on every other page. On every other page, Castile is ready to eat that. And I get it.

1:21.7

First, it's exciting. After a while, I'm like, come on, dude. These are your fantasies. Just please,

1:27.0

I beg you, ask your husband to eat you out. And then, you know, dude. These are your fantasies. Just please, I beg you, ask your husband to

1:29.3

eat you out. And then, you know, while I stop reading it, let me just spend for two seconds

1:33.7

for all my book talk, honey is out there. By the way, I'm on good reads now, so you should add me

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