Stop Being So Clingy! Why Anxiously Attached People Can Be Exhaustingly Amazing!

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 5 October 2022

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Tony explains what it means to be anxiously attached and how emotionally draining it is to be in a relationship with someone who has an anxious attachment style. Symptoms of an anxious attachment style in adults can be (from https://www.verywellmind.com/attachment-anxiety-4692761 (https://www.verywellmind.com/attachment-anxiety-4692761))* Behaviors that smother or drive their partner away* Constant need for contact and support from others* Fear of being under appreciated* Feeling unsure if a partner can be counted on* Hypersensitivity to rejection and abandonment (https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-rejection-sensitivity-4682652)* Need to increase feelings of security* Negative self-view or self-worth* Positive view of one's partner* Vigilance to signs that a partner is pulling away* Worry over losing a partner* Yearning to feel closer and more secure with othersTony refers to the articles "What is an Anxious Attachment Style" https://www.verywellhealth.com/anxious-attachment-5204408 (https://www.verywellhealth.com/anxious-attachment-5204408) and "How Anxious Attachment Style Affects Relationships," https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201904/how-anxious-attachment-style-affects-relationships (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201904/how-anxious-attachment-style-affects-relationships)ATTENTION THERAPISTS, PSYCHOLOGISTS, COUNSELORS, AND ALL MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS! You must act now to get access to Michael Twohigg's revolutionary new course "ACT for Anxiety Disorders." The cart closes at the end of the day on Friday, October 7th, 2022. Click on this link to access the course https://praxiscet.com/virtualcouch (https://praxiscet.com/virtualcouch)Get access to Tony's presentation from Monica Tanner's "Secrets of Happily Ever After" summit, which brings 32 marriage therapists and life/relationship coaches together to provide a wealth of tips to strengthen your marriage. You can sign up for the summit for free using the following link: https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/ (https://tonyoverbay--onthebrighterside.thrivecart.com/shea-summit-accelerator/)If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him (https://publish.blubrry.com/s-505600/episodes/e-89726073/edit/[email protected])for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop (http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop)to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com/) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com/) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here

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0:00.0	The weather. Tomorrow, expect a biting cold front. Hmm, how naughty. I wonder what I'll be
0:06.8	wearing or taking off. The night will be wild and untamed. Expect heavy, lashing rain
0:13.0	that'll soak you to the skin. By Monday, temperatures will rise slowly but surely reaching
0:18.7	their peak in the afternoon.
0:23.0	Not in the mood for miserable weather?
0:25.8	Fly cheaply to turkey with Sun Express.
0:28.7	Sun Express, non-stop sunshine.
0:33.4	A week or so ago, I was rooting through the fridge and I was looking for an avocado
0:35.2	because my go-to meal is a package lintel mix over some rice
0:39.2	with half an avocado cut up on top with some sea salt sprinkled. So let's go a little bit
0:45.6	psychology nerd on that last sentence. I have often wondered that at the end of a day of listening
0:50.5	to people share a variety of problems and challenges, some of them marriage
0:54.4	threatening, some of them honestly life threatening, that if my brain doesn't just love to spend
0:59.9	literally zero emotional calories or energy on wondering what's for dinner. So it's lentils and
1:06.0	rice and half an avocado to the point where if I'm missing an avocado, my brain will say,
1:11.2	sorry, we're going to go all or nothing on this bad boy and we cannot have it all now.
1:14.8	So I'm going to need you to go back and forth between the refrigerator and the pantry
1:18.3	and just stare blankly while there really isn't much happening in your brain until you finally
1:23.6	impulsively choose cereal because it's sugary, it's sweet, it'll give you that little
1:27.7	dopamine bump, and don't forget your childhood issues. You guys didn't have the fancy name brand
1:32.4	sugary cereals very often. So what have you done as an adult? You have overcompensated with so much
1:38.2	cereal. But on this day, I did find half an avocado and it was double zip-locked bagged, so it was still fresh, and I said
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