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Today, I'm going to be talking about how to stop being a people pleaser and how to re-engain

your own confidence within yourself or to just gain confidence within yourself if you've never

had it before.

And so when you look at people pleasing, people pleasing is a behavior where people tend to

prioritize the needs and desires and approvals of others over their own.

At its core, more than anything else, it's a strong desire to be accepted by other people.

And this leads towards actions that are more about making other people happy than fulfilling

your own personal needs and your own personal desires.

And it's about wanting to make other people happy.

And for the most part, it means ignoring your own needs.

And this is one of the things that people come to me so often about is being a people

pleaser. So I want to talk to you first about how it starts and then how it morphs into adulthood

and then how we can actually start to work through it. And so people pleasing usually begins in

childhood. Kids learn very early on that certain behaviors in their life and the way that

they act get them praise from their parents and teachers and grandparents and people around them.

And so it's like, okay, certain behaviors get me reprimanded and certain behaviors get me

praised. All a young child really knows about or cares about more than anything else just so you know

is, does my mother love me and does my father love me?

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