Matthew Arzi here with Love Life. I am super excited about today's show because we have

a great topic to discuss. But first I have a question for you. If I told you there were

five things you could say to get a man positively addicted to you, would you try them? If the

answer is yes, then be sure to listen until the end of today's show because I'm going

to tell you how you can get your hands on those five magic phrases. Now let's get to

the episode. I want to talk today about what I have come to call date cramming. I think

that we often associate the idea of cramming with an exam or with a test. You know, we cram

the night before. We pull an all-nighter to try and get everything done. I think that

people also go through a cramming process with their dates. You know, they get to the day

before a date and all of a sudden they're trying to think, ring around and find out what

are some cool restaurants to go to, what are some cool bars that we could hang out at?

Where is the best atmosphere? Because they don't go to anywhere cool normally. They're

trying to figure out what it is they're going to actually say on a date. How can I, how

can I be interesting because they haven't done anything recently. It's not like they've

actually expanded their mind, read any books, done anything to create great conversation

outside of themselves in their own past. So they're left cramming at the last minute

for a date. And that cramming leads to overwhelm. In fact, it's the kind of overwhelm that leads

most people to not want a date. So we have to get out of this cramming mindset. And one

of the ways to do this is to take a longer term perspective on our dating lives. And so

you know what, what I'm doing right now this week is not preparing me for a date this weekend.

If I do well on a date this weekend, that's a bonus. But what I do this week is not preparing

me for this week's date is preparing me for the date I'm going to have in six months.

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