If you want to stop being in relationships that you feel like you're failing in and they aren't making you happy,

then you need to stop repeating the same patterns that you've always repeated.

And you need to learn how to become the best partner for someone and also learn how to attract the right type of partner for yourself.

But how do you do that?

Well, today I put together a masterclass with the five

most impactful conversations with relationship experts that we've had here on the School of

Greatness to help you understand how to create lasting love in your life. In this first section,

I'm speaking with the one and only Esther Perel, who is a psychotherapist

known for her expertise in modern relationships, erotic intelligence, and infidelity, and on the most

important internal work that you need to do to improve your future relationships. What is the main

thing you would recommend people work on themselves, whether in transition

of relationships or in a relationship?

Is there one thing that they can always be working on to improve themselves?

Yes.

To be better for other relationships.

If their entire story about the relationship that just ended is about what the

other person did wrong to them, something is missing in the story. Yeah. That doesn't mean that

the other person may not have done things that were hurtful to them. But add to it, who were

you in this relationship?

Absolutely. What role did you play? What did you see that you didn't want to pay attention to?

What things do you wish you had done differently? What pieces do you wish that your partner had seen and accepted from you differently?

Where did you wish you would have said less and where did you wish you would have said more?

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