Stop Anxiety, Perfectionism & Controlling People’s Emotions
Calm Parenting Podcast
Kirk Martin
4.7 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 30 December 2023
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Stop Anxiety, Perfectionism & Controlling People’s Emotions
Have you noticed that your anxiety as a parent actually backfires and causes the exact opposite response you want from your kids? When you try to rush them, they move more slowly! When you push, they resist even more. When you lecture to motivate them, they shut down. So how can you break this cycle of frustration, stop trying to make everyone happy, and let go of perfectionism? Kirk shows you how.
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| 1:04.8 | day life we live causes a lot of anxiety right and it starts first thing in the morning when your |
| 1:10.2 | son doesn't want to get |
| 1:11.2 | out of bed, you get anxious that he's going to ask you to stay home yet again and miss another day of |
| 1:16.7 | school. And your daughter won't eat. Is she going to be unhealthy? What if she gets sick? Your son's |
| 1:21.6 | worn the same hoodie sweatshirt for 13 days in a row. What are the other parents and teachers going to |
| 1:26.5 | think about you as a mother? |
| 1:28.0 | And your daughter won't brush her teeth or her hair. |
| 1:31.0 | And as you're rushing out the door, she remembers one final thing she just has to do before she leaves. |
| 1:36.1 | And you're sitting out in the driveway honking the horn, right, waking the neighbors up. |
| 1:40.6 | Great. Now there's a traffic jam. You're going to be late. |
| 1:43.3 | So you grip the wheel a little tighter. You ride the guy's bumper ahead of you. You're tense. And your kids are trying to talk to you, but you snap back because you're still upset about their dawdling. Right. We'll talk about this tonight. You snap as you drop your kids off to school. Now you feel guilty, right? Because now you've got to rush to work. You're afraid your boss is going to be mad at you again. Your mother's pressuring you to visit for the holidays, but you don't really want to go. You're getting the usual guilt trips and you'll probably give in, right? And then the PTA and church committee keep asking you to volunteer. They need to help after all, and you're the responsible one. And what about the Johnson's kids? They're taking piano and extra language after school. If they can do it, why can't your kids? Why do your kids sit on screens all the time? You vowed that you guys wouldn't do that. And now your whole family is just kind of addicted to screens all the time. What if you're not doing enough for them? What if they can't get into the right prep school? Will you be a failure as a parent? Heck, you're not sure whether you're going to need that money for college or bail, given your son's behavior. Oh, that's right. You don't have money set aside for college anyway. The braces, the new roof, summer camp therapy, and car repairs have eaten |
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