Stop Abandoning Yourself for Unavailable People

Jillian on Love

Daylight Media

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 1 June 2026

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Why do so many people ignore what they already know deep down in their relationships? In this episode, Jillian explores the difference between anxiety and intuition, the red flags people rationalize away, and the green flags that actually matter when building healthy love. She breaks down the questions you need to ask before ending a relationship, why feeling unwanted or emotionally unsafe changes your nervous system, and how chemistry alone can keep you trapped in painful cycles. Got a question for Jillian? Record your voice message here and it could be answered in an upcoming episode! https://www.jillianturecki.com/askjillian Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Threads: @jillianturecki YouTube: @jillian.turecki Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	How someone treats you is a reflection of their capacity.
0:09.1	It's not a reflection of your worth.
0:11.3	And in fact, that's one of the greatest breakthroughs that we could ever have is realizing that.
0:19.1	It's realizing that if someone mistreats you or is unkind to you,
0:25.3	that it's never about you.
0:28.3	It's really about them and their state.
0:31.5	I mean, think about it.
0:34.3	Haven't you ever just been in a bad mood?
0:37.3	Haven't you ever just been in a bad mood? Haven't you ever just woken up and been sad, not really feel good about yourself?
0:46.3	Felt a little irritable?
0:49.3	Haven't you ever been so hungry that you get irritable from being hungry?
0:59.6	You see, how we treat others is a reflection of how we're raised.
1:06.6	It's a reflection of our values for sure, but it's also a reflection of our emotional state.
1:14.0	So again, if someone is not being that nice to you, it is their emotional state.
1:20.4	It could be their values, and it also can be like how they were raised.
1:25.5	At the end of the day, though, it's not about you. And like, the tragedy is that,
1:30.7	especially in relationships and we're not treated well, we think, well, I must not be lovable. I must not
1:35.9	be good enough. And look, this is something, this is a really corrosive story that happens. It's like
1:43.7	someone's not unkind to you and then and then we're
1:47.5	kind of left up left to pick up the broken pieces of our self-esteem. And that's like a really real thing.
1:55.6	Part of actually recouping your self-esteem is understanding that it's about them, not you. Listen, I had one of,
2:05.1	like, the worst things happen to me many, many years ago. My ex-husband, but at the time he was
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