Stefani Goerlich: Understanding Kink and Advocating for Its Cultural Redemption

Sounds True: Insights at the Edge

Tami Simon

Religion, Religion & Spirituality

4.6 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 10 October 2023

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

You're kinky but your partner is vanilla. Or maybe it's the other way around. Perhaps you've always known; perhaps you just found out. So how do you talk about it? And what happens next?

In this podcast, Tami Simon speaks with “edge expert,” certified sex therapist, and master social worker Dr. Stefani Goerlich about her new book, With Sprinkles on Top: Everything Vanilla People and Their Kinky Partners Need to Know to Communicate, Explore, and Connect. Give a listen to this much-needed discussion about destigmatizing kink and expanding our definition of a healthy relationship, as Tami and Stefani discuss: reassessing our sexual attitudes; how kinky became taboo; bringing kink into the “cultural redemption arc”; the misconceptions about trauma and kink; the concept of authority exchange; surrender and relaxation; kink as a relational, not a sexual, behavior; moving from secrecy to shared knowledge; decorating and enhancing one’s “core vanilla-ness”; discovering your fantasies; the nature of fetishes; understanding your erotic map; and more.

Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

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0:00.0	Hello friends, my name is Tammy Simon, and I'm the founder of SoundsTrue, and I want
0:06.8	to welcome you to the SoundsTrue podcast, Insights at the Edge.
0:12.0	I also want to take a moment to introduce you to SoundsTrue's new membership community
0:17.1	and digital platform.
0:18.9	It's called SoundsTrue1.
0:22.0	SoundsTrue1 features original, premium, transformational docuseries, community events,
0:29.0	classes to start your day and relax in the evening, special weekly live shows, including
0:37.1	a video version of Insights at the Edge with an after show community question and answer
0:43.0	session with featured guests.
0:45.7	I hope you'll come join us, explore, come have fun with us, and connect with others.
0:51.8	You can learn more at join.soundstrue.com.
0:56.5	I also want to take a moment and introduce you to the SoundsTrue Foundation, our nonprofit
1:02.4	that creates equitable access to transformational tools and teachings.
1:08.7	You can learn more at soundstruefoundation.org.
1:12.6	And in advance, thank you for your support.
1:16.6	Hello friends, and welcome in this episode of Insights at the Edge.
1:21.4	Our guest is Stephanie Gorlick.
1:24.2	Stephanie is a certified sex therapist and a master social worker who specializes in
1:31.0	working with gender, sexuality, and relationships.
1:34.7	She's a sought after clinical supervisor, media consultant, and conference presenter,
1:41.2	who has appeared in national media ranging from CNN to the Washington Post.
1:46.9	Stephanie is the award-winning author of the professional books, The Leather Couch,
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