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He wanted something better for him and his wife.

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You will meet some people along the journey that will give you a little tingle.

There's something about the way they look and the way they talk and the way they emote that will give you a little tingle. I don't think it's

sinful but it's very dangerous if you're already married.

Dr. Gary Chapman has some advice on how you can avoid an affair on today's episode of

Focus on the Family.

Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly, and I'm John Fuller.

John, we always enjoy it when Dr Chapman visits us here in the studios in Colorado Springs.

But today we're going to share his great advice by featuring an excerpt from his DVD series called The Marriage You've Always Wanted.

This is really good stuff, exceptional marriage help,

and there's a book to go along with it and let me just thank Dr Chapman for allowing us to share it with you.

Let me also say whatever stage of marriage you're in right now,

there's something here for you.

So stick with this, Dr Chapman sprinkles in a lot of humor, so I know you're going to enjoy it.

And for the sake of time, we'll skip some of the introductory remarks.

And here now, Dr. Gary Chapman, on Focus on the Family.

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