Spontaneity Is Our Love Language
Cat & Nat Unfiltered
Cat & Nat
4.9 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 19 May 2026
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
This week we’re talking about getting older and realizing we don’t have to stay attached to the people we used to be. From losing interest in things we once loved — dinner parties, cooking, fashion, entertaining — to craving spontaneity over stuff, this conversation turns into a surprisingly honest chat about changing priorities as we age.
We get into birthday expectations, why opportunities and experiences now feel more exciting than material things, and how freeing it can be to stop following the script of what life is “supposed” to look like. Plus, the compliment Cat got at the vet that absolutely took her out, why we don’t want your heirlooms, and the unexpected joy of finally embracing exactly who we are right now.
Key topics
- Minimalism and personal style
- Spontaneous opportunities and experiences
- Changing preferences and self-awareness
Takeaways
- You don't have to follow the script; you can change what you like.
- Material possessions are not what bring happiness.
- Spontaneous opportunities create memorable experiences.
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| 0:00.0 | Hmm. She looks at me and she goes, well, I am wearing fur in May. And I said, I know, but you're doing it well, babe. And she said, and what did she say? She said, if I had an ass like yours, I'd be in leggings. That's kind of how I feel, too. |
| 0:18.9 | Whatever it's your birth. Oh my gosh. Yeah, guys, when we're recording this it is my birthday and i |
| 0:25.4 | okay so um you know those moments yeah where you're like how did i survive i have i have no |
| 0:33.9 | close like but cat but just think about it. |
| 0:38.1 | Do you see me in the same thing all the time? You like the same thing all the time. You're drawn to the same thing all the time. You're drawn to the same thing. There's nothing else there. But you are drawn to the same thing. Like, okay, I don't mind if I buy a bunch of things that look the same. But I don't have very many of them. I don't, this happens every time. |
| 0:55.0 | How is it possible? |
| 0:56.3 | Well, uh... |
| 0:57.7 | Like, why don't have very many of them. I don't, this happens every time. How is it possible? Well, uh, why don't I have 30 shirts? Because you don't like 30 shirts. You would not like that. You'd wear the same thing. You're actually very minimalist and that's okay. It sure doesn't feel okay. Because you don't know what to wear in certain occasions. So you're going, you're going to pack a shirt and jeans and like you're running, your brown running shoes. Even today. I'm like at the same goddamn jeans and the same shoes don't get me started on footwear. Well, welcome to the cat and that podcast where you can count on one thing. The same issues keep coming up over and over and over again, which is life. |
| 1:28.2 | Like fucking ground hug. |
| 1:29.0 | Which is life. That is life. Isn't that kind of nice? I guess. Life we know. Something you can count on. Those are our biggest problems where I really do feel so lucky. No, I do. Listen, I do feel lucky. Like we have not a lot of problems. and I went to my, I called my dad yesterday. And, you know, there's people in your life who are eternal optimist. And we did a whole podcast if you're interested in that conversation on like actual facts on eternal optimism. And he's like, I'm not going to say it's cold anymore. I'm going to say it's fresh. It's fresh out. And I was like, you know what? You're right. |
| 2:01.1 | Yeah. It is fresh. Yeah. And I was like, God, you are 82 and you can still find the fresh and the cold. Yeah. I am like, it is freezing. I'm in a bad mood. Yeah. For me. Yeah. And it's, I'm like, eh. Like, I'm like, But overall, like, fine. |
| 2:17.2 | Oh, I know. |
| 2:17.7 | Great. |
| 2:18.2 | It's just like it's cold. |
| 2:19.2 | And would I like some different huddies? |
| 2:21.0 | Yeah. |
| 2:21.3 | Do I know. |
| 2:17.7 | It's just like it's cold and would I like some different huddies? |
| 2:20.9 | Yeah, do I have wardrobe? Yeah, but I was going to plant today. Would I like some different hoodies? Well, because I know. Are you shitting me right now? Because I'm sort of embracing who I am as a person. I'm not going to buy them, but I do have jeans and tops that I will wear, but I, in my brain, think I'm working out today or gardening. Are there some hoodies that I would. Yeah, because I like what I like to be a bit different than wear the same gray, black, and blue. I wear gray, black, and blue, or brown sometimes. Okay, so you need to buy some more hoodies? Yeah, I don't need to, but I'm just kind of like, do I care right now? |
| 2:51.6 | No, I'm not going to do it. Like, I don't care that much. Oh. You guys, I'm in leggings because, like, I went to the vet just now. Mm-hmm. And I walked in your husband's in jeans and the same quilted barn coat he's been wearing for a hundred years. It's called the barn coat, just so you know it is a barn coat. |
| 3:08.6 | Which one is it? |
| 3:09.7 | Quilted, green. |
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