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Guaranteed Human.

Hello, it's Rob Shooter from the Nauty but Nice podcast. On the weekends, we've been doing the special bonus podcasts that are really based in my book, my self-help book called The Four-word Answer, as well as being a gossip columnist. I'm also one of the leading experts in motivation,

in self-help.

So sit back and for the next 10 minutes or so, let's discuss something really, really important.

When you are kind to yourself, this happens.

No one has really that many friends, not real friends. I don't,

and you don't either, and that is perfectly normal. What we do have is lots of people that we know,

and there's nothing wrong with acknowledging that at all. Instead of pretending that everybody

you have ever met in your life is your best friend, focus on the people around you who really

matter, especially the most important friend you will ever have yourself. Put yourself first. I'm going to say

that again. Put yourself first because self-love is not selfish at all. It means that you are taking care of

yourself, making sure that you are safe and healthy has to be a

priority. It's amazing how many people come in and out of our lives. We start our lives as little

babies with just family members around us and then we go to school and we meet friends and eventually work

and hobbies and all these relationships that we get when we become adults. Add to that all the

random people from your neighbourhood or romantic partners and all of a sudden you have a web of many different types of acquaintances and that's the

point. They are not all the same. Be honest with yourself. Where and how all these people

fit into your life. Think about the sliding ever-changing scale of friendship from a total stranger to the best friend

you will ever have, except the natural ebbs and flows of relationships, knowing that the only

thing all these different connections have in common is you.

You are at the centre of your world and the foundation on which every other relationship

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