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If you've been listening to our recent episodes here with Dr. Gary Chapman, you might have been wondering really how important is it that I figure out what my child's love language is.

After all, they're approaching teenage years. They're going to be a little monster that I don't know after

a while. Well I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werther and today Dr Chapman is going to tell you exactly

why it is so important for you to understand your child's love language.

Here he is with Jim Daly.

Gary, I so appreciate the wisdom that you're bringing.

Let me ask you this question, is it as simple as what we're talking about today?

Do men and women end up in prison because they weren't loved?

Jim, I think the most fundamental issue for any of us is to feel loved. If we feel

loved by the significant people in our lives we are going to reach our potential, or more likely, maybe I should say more

likely to reach our potential for God and good in the world. If we don't feel loved by the

significant people in our lives, we will likely never reach our potential.

It's just that fundamental, and that's why I think for parents, it's so important to realize this concept.

It sounds so easy in that context. It's not easy

though. We don't want to paint that picture. But when you look at the

difficulty that so many households are facing.

I mean, we're talking about teenagers here.

And you're looking at a culture that's grabbing them

every step of the way, premarital sex, everything.

And we as parents, we get frustrated perhaps embarrassed

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