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There's something called the Five Love Languages, and if you know this concept, you're probably

utilizing it in your everyday interactions, but maybe this is the first time you've heard them.

I'm John Fuller, along with Danny Werthera and Dr. Gary Chapman has this concept called the five love languages and essentially it's how do you express love and how do you receive love and the whole goal is to interact with people

in ways that are meaningful to them.

And so Danny, in my home, my wife is a quality time person, that's one of the five. I am a words of affirmation person.

And so when we're talking, as she says good words to me about what I did or who I am I just drink that in and for her if I

sit down and just listen to her if I give her my undivided attention that speaks

volumes to her she could care less sometimes if I say something nice

but if I listen to her oh that means the world how about you what's what's something for you

well John what's hard with the love languages is many times we try to express the way we receive and we have to be aware of that, right? We have to take time to learn what other people's love languages are.

And for me, I love physical touch.

I grew up a Latino.

Okay, so I'm going to leave the mic and come around and give you a hug.

And I would say it works a little different, especially with John.

But it could be different scenarios.

You have different needs as far as just, and I wouldn't even say it's a need, it's a want, you know, I want to have this way that people communicate love to me.

And out of that, how do I express love towards others and being aware of that that I may miss the mark sometimes I may think I'm loving someone and you have five different people in the room with five different love

languages. It's impossible to meet everyone's love language. That's not what's

this about. It's about communicating with one other, getting to know each other at a deep level, and

then knowing my own love language. And my wife knows. Quality time is hers, mine's physical touch. We love both

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