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It is seminal book The Meaning of Marriage, Tim Keller wrote,

Truth Without Love is Harshness.

It does give us information, but in a way that we cannot really hear it.

That is really an insightful thought and the apostle Paul perhaps said the same

kind of thing when he wrote that famous love passage in 1st-Gerenthians, chapter 13, if I speak in the tongues of men and of angels

but have no love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging symbol. And this relates to our parenting. Here's the question, what do our kids hear when we correct

or discipline them? Do they hear a loving parent or do they hear a harsh and bitter taskmaster.

I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werther.

He's a licensed clinical social worker

and heads up our parenting department here at Focus on the Family.

And today we're continuing a conversation that Jim

Daly and I had with Danny and author Jesse Manassian who offered some tips

for speaking the truth in love and ways to strengthen your relationship with your teen.

You know one of the big issues that can erupt during the teen years is peer pressure.

We're touching on that, we're talking about that, What voice do you listen to? Where's your identity? But I think a lot of us parents, it catches us by surprise. Why are my kids gravitating toward these voices when for the last 10, 12 years I've taught them

differently.

And it's probably one of those pillow talks that mom and dad have when you go to bed and you're going I'm so

frustrated honey I mean we have told them time and time again this is who you need to be

this is how you need to act and it's not working they must children. Yeah, this is your side of the family.

But, you know, however that goes down, but there seems to be this frustration in parents that,

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