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Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of The Selfie Show, where we are bringing you the weekly dose of sweet and salty. I am Tori, the founder and now co-host of the show. I am a nurse blogger and podcaster. And sitting across from me my extra salty co-hosts. And I'm Sam.

I'm a college professor, flight nurse powerlifter, and co-host of the selfie show. And today we are

talking off the clock, bonus episode style about soulmates. Do they exist? Is it real? Is that a sham?

I don't know. Let's let's dive in, man.

Okay. I'm really excited about this because the whole concept of soulmates, I actually think that most people think that I think about this a certain way. I was actually shocked. Okay, so the way

this even started was like a kitchen conversation because obviously I always go through these like single girl like life dilemmas of just like having me question everything in life. And I was like, well, she's married. So of course she like believes in soulmates. And she's like, I don't believe in soulmates. Nope. If Jacob died, I would get remarried. And I was like, oh my God. Oh, that stung a little bit. Okay, so this is the thing about it. I don't think I believe it. We don't want that to happen for the record. Obviously, for the record. Love you, honey. No, but I don't think I believe in soulmates in the way that a lot of people think about soulmates. Which is what? Okay.

So I think when people think about it, you're probably thinking something along the lines of a soulmate is your only one true love. The one person that is meant to be with you for the rest of your life, that this is the most intense type of relationship, this romantic relationship with one person. I just think that,

you know, there's, and, you know, soulmates, you know, I just think the reality is, first of all,

in relationships, you have a lot of ups and downs. And the expectation of a soulmate is that everything's

so perfect and it's romantic. I don't know. I just have so many thoughts on this situation. Okay, well, first of all, I think one, we're kind of let's even boil it down to love. You're going to love more than one person in your lifetime. Yeah, absolutely. And in different ways. In different ways. I love you. I love you. Absolutely. I don't want to have sex with you, but like I love you. Right. Yeah. There's that. So, but like, do you think that love is forever too or because you're someone that got married? So you said until death do us part. Absolutely. Yeah. Like you vowed until death do us part. And for sicker or poor and richer,

fuck, I don't know, the vows. Obviously, I didn't take them. But I don't know. Do you think that

it ever like times out? Absolutely. Yeah. So, I mean, obviously we are, how many years now? Is it

three or four? Four years. In 2017? Into 18. Yeah. So obviously we're still on the newer side of marriage. And I am so happy. It's another misconception, I think, too, that you go into marriage. And it's going to be all honeymoon phase. But then I think a lot of people think it's going to be so hard. And you're going through all this stuff. And I'm like, Jacob and I have a great fun marriage. Like honestly, like we don't. From an outsider's perspective, obviously, you never know what goes behind a closed doors. Right. I feel like I'm behind closed doors a lot. And like, to be honest, in our relationship, too, it's interesting because we truly are a threple in the sense of like, you're here a lot. Yeah. So we have like this relationship, but this is where I knew the partner that I was choosing was, the foundation is truly like our core is so much respect and love and a true partnership.

And he's very open minded. And to be honest,

we weren't doing these things when we started this, but I feel so much support from this person. Now, do I think it's a true soulmate, soulmate? I don't know if I believe in that. I don't

know. I just don't think that I believe in one person. It's almost like I if I was

thinking that I would be putting Jacob on this pedestal expecting him to give me everything, right?

Like he would be the one person to give me happiness, the best sex, the best everything, you know,

providing me. It's just I think the expectation put that put on your partner is a lot of pressure.

He doesn't give me all the every single thing.

And I go on a tangent because this is what I do best about love and sex.

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