Soul Mates or Settling? The Friends to Lovers Story feat. Ezee and Natalie

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

LOVERS by shan

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

5 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 12 July 2022

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?

According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning.

You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.

This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.

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0:00.0	What if the world listened more? Maybe it could become a better place.
0:05.5	Because when we really listen, we smarten out as things, things that don't sound quite bright.
0:11.6	They might not seem obvious at first, but listen closely and they stand out like a sore plum,
0:17.9	and the more we glisten the door we learn, our ears help us find belter solutions.
0:22.8	And things can change from this to something a little more like this.
0:30.1	The Honda Jazz is a hybrid, Honda, the power of dreams.
0:41.2	What's interesting about your relationship and I would assume a lot of friends to
0:44.4	lovers relationships is it doesn't start with acknowledging there's sexual attraction.
0:49.2	It started at, yeah, I love you. Yeah, I went from just to I love you because I didn't realize I like
0:57.8	her friends to lovers can genuine friends. I mean genuine friends truly transition into long-term
1:04.7	romantic and sexual partners. I love my friend and it turned out to be beloved my life when I say
1:13.5	the most unexpected love story ever. Oh shoot, I cannot believe I'm with that person. Like that to
1:21.4	me is crazy. Like I've heard those stories and I'm just like why are you sharing this information with us?
1:25.9	He on paper was not really my type, it was just really cool friends and it turned out to be
1:31.6	at least right now my person. I'm so in love with my friend and it turned out to be like he was
1:37.8	he was still in love with his ex. I actually have fallen in love with a friend. He expressed
1:43.2	falling in love with me first. It turned out to be disastrous. We have been friends since third grade
1:50.2	and we've been together for about 10 years. I fell in love with my friend who happens twice and
1:56.0	it turned out to be terrible on both terms. My friend and I fell in love with each other. This is
2:02.0	the first time and it is the healthiest and most fulfilling the best relationship I've ever been in.
2:08.8	In the beginning it was amazing and then when it goes bad you lose your best friend that probably
2:17.4	hurt in the most. It's definitely not as clear cut as falling in love with your best friend and
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