What is up daddy gang? It is your founding father Alex Cooper with call her daddy.

Nancy Dreyfus welcome to call her daddy.

Thank you. It's great being here.

Nancy Dreyfus is a psychotherapist and author of the book, Talk to me like I'm someone you love,

relationship repair in a flash. You are an expert

at helping couples transform unproductive arguments into moments of connection

through communication and vulnerability.

I want to go through some common situations couples may find themselves in during conflict

and then discuss how, if navigated properly properly it can actually bring the couple closer together.

So the title of your book, Talk to me like I'm someone you love is a profound one. Can you elaborate on the

concept behind it and share how it can transform our relationships for the better? How

did you come up with this title? Sure. The first

thing I want to say is have everybody imagine what they wouldn't say if they didn't

say talk to me like I'm someone you love. They would say don't talk to me in that tone of voice or I'm not going to listen to you and the beauty of talk to me like I'm someone you love is that there's a dignity to it and I'm treating myself respectfully

and with love not pushing not criticizing you and the basic premise of mine

Alex is that people treat you how you treat yourself.

So when I say, talk to me like I'm someone you love, I'm raising the bar.

Yeah, it's so interesting to hear you say that sometimes people just need to be reminded.

I think sometimes when you're in a fight you can almost go to a different place and you kind of

forget your humanity and the person that you're in a relationship with that you love and so that is such a mature way to look at it because you are setting a standard for yourself of like I love myself do you love me and if not then that's a whole

another conversation. How do you define conscious communication in a relationship?

Wow, that is a great question and no one's ever quite asked it.

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