Sorry...I'm Probably Saying This Wrong! Understanding Rejection Sensitivity

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 26 May 2022

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever felt like you were anticipating rejection as you approached a person, or situation that you believed truly mattered to you? If so, you may be experiencing a form of "Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria" or RSD. RSD is typically associated as a by-product of ADHD. If you grew up continually being told no by those you cared about, then you may find yourself anticipating being told no as an adult. Now we understand that RSD is not simply something that affects those with ADHD, but to an extent, we ALL grew up hearing no when asking for things that we want (to a child, telling them that they can't eat candy for dinner every night, to them, will feel like rejection). The more that we learn about RSD, the more we can understand how to treat it. Tony refers to several articles in this episode including the following: "What Is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria," by Andrea Bonior https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/friendship-20/201907/what-is-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/friendship-20/201907/what-is-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria) "Rejection Sensitivity: Signs, Causes and Healing" https://www.supportiv.com/anxiety/rejection-sensitivity (https://www.supportiv.com/anxiety/rejection-sensitivity) "What Does Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Feel like? RSD" by Dr. Jasmine Shaikh, MD https://www.medicinenet.com/what_is_rejection_sensitivity_dysphoria_feel_like/article.htm (https://www.medicinenet.com/what_is_rejection_sensitivity_dysphoria_feel_like/article.htm) and "How ADHD Ignites Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria," by William Dodson https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/ (https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/)http://tonyoverbay.com/worksho (http://tonyoverbay.com/worksho)p to sign up for Tony’s “Magnetize Your Marriage” virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you’ll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. With the continuing "sheltering" rules spreading across the country, PLEASE do not think you can't continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch), you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com/) and signing up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ (https://descript.com/?lmref=bSWcEQ)

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0:00.0	Hey, oh, oh, oh, come on and take a seat on the virtual couch.
0:21.9	Hey, everybody.
0:22.5	Welcome to this episode of the virtual couch.
0:24.4	I'm your host, Tony Overbay.
0:25.6	I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist.
0:27.3	And let's get right to it.
0:29.3	I am going to talk today about rejection.
0:31.9	How often do you feel rejection?
0:34.7	And have you ever had that sense where you are going into a conversation with
0:38.4	somebody is particularly somebody that you care for and you almost have this anticipatory rejection
0:42.8	so we're going to talk about something called rejection sensitive dysphoria and boy
0:47.8	today is going to be a day of tangents i can already tell you that because this this has been a topic
0:52.2	that i wanted to talk about for quite a while and there's a new
0:55.4	book out called ADHD 2.0 that i it's one of the first books i think i have listened to
1:01.2	um finished it and gone back and started again because i typically just i don't like watching movies
1:06.3	a second time or shows a second time or reading books a second time. This one spoke to me. I mean,
1:11.0	this, this, this just, it validates my own experience with ADHD and the authors, Edward Halliwell
1:18.0	and John, I think it's Rite or Ratti, both doctors, I think they said this is their seventh
1:23.0	book that they've written about ADHD. And their book driven to distraction was one that I talked
1:28.6	often about when I first did two or three parts on my own ADHD awakening or awareness back
1:36.5	in the episodes around 150 or somewhere around there. And the more that I think that, that I talk
1:42.5	about it, the more feedback that I get from other people
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