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Music Hello and welcome back to Big Mood Little Mood. I am your host, Danny Lavery, and with me in the studio this week is Heather Haverleski, an author who recently published the book Foreverland on the Divine Teedium of Marriage. She also writes the Ask Polly Advice column formerly on New York Magazine, now on Substack. Heather, welcome to the show.

Hello, Danny. I'm so pleased to be here with you. I am so, so pleased to be here too with you.

I love, you know, periodically our intersecting careers lead us into moments where we get to do

fun little sessions together

for the people to just enjoy or not as they like. And I'm so glad that we're doing this now.

How are you? How's the book launch been going? I've been going really well. I've actually been

enjoying promoting this book, which is a little bit new for me. I mean,

last book I enjoyed the book tour. I actually got on plane and went to several places. This time,

I just went to New York, but I've been doing a lot of like putting on makeup and then getting on

Zooms, doing interviews, putting on makeup and getting on podcasts and stuff like that.

But it's been fun because, I don't know, this book is just so personal to me that's fun to talk about.

And amazingly enough, even though people keep asking me how humiliated I am by my book, I don't

feel humiliated by it at all.

So that's been kind of a new thing,

I think. I'm enjoying it. Yeah, I can really see that. There's often like a fascinating opportunity for either a really interesting conversation or at least a very interesting

drawn-out pause when one person wants to respond to

something with obviously this is embarrassing and cringe-inducing and somebody else says it's

not that way for me because at least in my own experience whenever I have found something

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