Hey, it's your girl simply Shunika, and you are now listening to the goddess confessions. Some important things that all women need to learn.

One of the most important lessons I've ever learned was how to keep my mouth closed. There are things that do not need to be said to people who you don't know and there is a time and a place to speak about certain topics. You're not always going to be the victim and

clinging to victimhood is annoying. Also not cute to refuse to take accountability when you know you're in the wrong, especially when you're an adult.

Being accountable for your mistakes and the things you've allowed in your life is important and

crucial for your success.

At the same time, we don't live life in a vacuum and we cannot dissolve other people of the responsibility in causing

suffering or aiding in our pain.

The thing is accountability is important, but extreme accountability is

is toxic.

The latter could be considered a form of gas lighting

that makes us question if our reactions to others wrongdoings towards us, a place in an adequate level of

blame to them is even rational.

You can still learn from the past experiences of hurt others have caused towards you to try to act accordingly in lieu of your well-being in the future and heal from it without internalizing a toxic sense of accountability

that should be attributed to others and not to yourself. Taking in the blame for other people's actions isn't taking

control over your life. It's suppressing the pain and assuming ownership for the wrongdoings of others.

Progressing doesn't always look glamorous. Sometimes progressing looks like taking a few steps back and

downgrading in a superficial way to accomplish your goal that will propel you further much more in the long run.

No one wants to be friends with someone who always has to be the victim,

and no one wants to date a perpetual victim. The best

thing you can do for yourself is to grow up. Learn how to own up to your mistakes and apologize when necessary and always keep it moving.

There is no need to regress or stand your ground when you're wrong. It'll make you look like an idiot in the long run,

and it can be much more admirable to own up to things and apologize.

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