You're listening to the Water Into Wine podcast hosted by Grace Valentine.

Hello everybody and welcome back to another edition of the Water Into Wine podcast. Today I'm going to

be talking to you about something that I have dealt with plenty of times in my life and it's

situationships and it's crying about a guy you didn't even date and I would love to say that I

Grace Valentine have never done that have never stared at the ceiling fan with a

sinking pit because the guy that I like stopped snapping or texting me that we went on

two dates and suddenly I wondered what went wrong wrong and then I was jumping to

conclusions and having anxiety about it but the truth is that it was many times in my life and I think

that's very common for our generation and I hate that it is so if that's you if you're listening to

this right now driving and you are puffy-eyed from a situation ship from a guy friend who led you on

a little bit or didn't lead you on but you got excited about, or if you're just crying about a guy who you did go on dates with, but you were never exclusive and now you feel crazy for caring, this episode is for you. It's going to be a mini episode of just straight advice, and I hope you can listen to this and feel like it's a big sister talking to you. And so first I want to talk about the idea of situationships. We have to admit when we go through a situation ship that a situation ship is truly just one person in a situation and the other person who is treating someone else like it's convenient. And so you have to realize, hey, I'm not in a situation ship. It's not a mutual situation. I'm in a situation. The other person is just kind of using me and it's convenient for them. And I get it because when I was first even dating my boyfriend, it wasn't ever a situation ship, but we did talk and date for about like two and a half, three months before we were exclusive. Well, we were exclusive, but we were not the the labels and so that's something the other generation

older generations don't understand and I agree that it is kind of confusing but I know that me

and him were in the discernment phase too we're like do we see this relationship progressing

and so you have to decide is this a situation ship or is this a pursuit like is this someone

dating me to see if we could be boyfriend and girlfriend or is this just a situation ship where I'm kind of being used? And after you go through a situation ship, it is easy to feel really pathetic because you feel like, wait, I cared for them and they didn't care about me. And honestly, when I look at my life, that is true. Like, that guy didn't really care about me. That guy friend kind of like leading me on. And but you can't

feel pathetic for that. I look back in my life, I'm like, okay, I can become wiser. I can no longer accept that. But the end of the day, I tried and that's the best I can do that I cared. I'm not going to apologize for caring, but I am going to apologize to myself for not being wiser about the red flags and I know I'm talking to a lot of girls who claim to be Christian. I think

Christian girls especially struggle with that sweet going to apologize to myself for not being wiser about the red flags. And I know I'm talking to a lot of girls who claim to be Christian.

I think Christian girls especially struggle with this.

We get sometimes give excuses and we say it's grace, but the truth is it's excuses.

And so you are called as a Christian to give grace but not excuses, especially in something as intimate as a dating relationship.

So when you are constantly being like, what, he's, you know,

he's with the boys. Maybe the reason he's following all these girls on Instagram who post a lot

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