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As children, not only when we are young, should we be obeying our parents and being good to our parents and ensuring that we do not harm our parents in any way, but even when we grow older, even when we are married, even after our parents have passed away, we should ensure that we fulfill what Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala requires from us.

The first most important duty that a child must fulfill towards his or her parents is that they should please their parents.

A child should please his parents in what is permissible. The obedience of a parent and the parents is actually a duty that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has mentioned in the Qur'an.

Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says, indeed your Lord has declared that you shall worship none besides Him and you shall be good to your parents.

Now this includes being obedient to them and not hurting their feelings.

Rasulullah ﷺ has said, the happiness of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala lies in the happiness of the father and in one narration, the pleasing of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala lies in the pleasing of parents.

So Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has chosen the parents of each person and made them a means of bringing Him or her into existence.

Parents, especially mothers, go through so much sacrifice and difficulty for the child. This sacrifice can never be overlooked and this is why we need to make sure that we please our parents, obedience to parents, results in the blessings and happiness of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala.

And we in turn will be granted good offspring. So if you are good to your parents, Allah insha'Allah will grant you good offspring who will be good to you as well insha'Allah.

And our offspring then will please us as well and they will be obedient to us as well. Remember it is a sacrifice to be obedient to your parents.

Even if one happens to have parents who are non-Muslims, he or she should be good to them and should please them and obey them in all that does not contradict the sharia.

And regarding the female child, after marriage, obedience to her husband comes before that of her parents.

So one might say, is it that the sharia has differentiated between a male child and a female child? The answer is yes.

The sharia has differentiated between the male child and the female child. After marriage, when it comes to a male child, the order is, the parents come first and then the others.

And when it comes to the wife, firstly it is the husband and then the parents may Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala grant us the ability to understand this.

Remember, within a marriage we should not actually make it a big issue that, oh my parents this and my husband this, we should try and live in a harmonious home and we should try as far as possible to understand one another.

And we should try to work out a system that will result in the pleasure of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and the happiness of both of us at the same time.

May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala grant us the ability to understand.

Now remember one thing, to please parents, one of the most important things is when we speak to our parents, we should speak to them in a polite manner.

Never use abusive language because that is a major sin. It is one of the most serious sins which is actually termed as a crime by Rasulullah al-Alahi wa Sallam.

When he spoke about associating partners with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, when he spoke about murder, before he even spoke about murder, he spoke about being disobedient and being bad to your own parents.

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