Sober Sex: How to Get Wet When You’re Dry - with Anna Wolfe
Sober Awkward
Victoria Vanstone
4.8 • 533 Ratings
🗓️ 12 April 2026
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
This week… we’re going there.
Dating sober. Regretful one-night stands. The murky truth about consent. Letting go of shame. First sober sexual encounters… and yes, even prison date nights. It’s all on the table.
I’m joined by the brilliant Anna Wolfe, host of How To Get Wet When You’re Dry, who brings both lived experience and serious journalistic insight into what actually happens after we get sober, especially when it comes to relationships and sex.
We talk about the things most of us have done… but rarely unpack properly. The choices we made when alcohol was involved, the lines that got blurred, and what it looks like to navigate intimacy without it.
It’s honest, uncomfortable at times, and properly eye-opening.
And yes… I do cringe my way through parts of it.
But that’s kind of the point. Because sobriety doesn’t just change what we drink, it changes how we connect, how we choose, and how we show up in the most vulnerable parts of our lives.
Enjoy! and you can listen to Annas podcast here - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-get-wet-when-youre-dry/id1833243242
or follow her here - @imannawolfe
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| 0:00.0 | Oh, the kettle's boiled. Excellent timing. I'll just make myself a quick cupper, take a deep breath and pretend I know exactly what I'm doing. Right, let's get started. |
| 0:15.5 | Have you ever woken up on a Sunday morning with massive anxiety and said to yourself, I'm never drinking again, |
| 0:22.6 | only to find yourself waving 50 bucks at a barman by happy hour. Do you ever wonder why everyone else |
| 0:28.1 | can stop at one while you end up at a dodgy after party holding hands with a weird bloke called |
| 0:32.9 | Disco Dave? If so, it might be time to take a closer look at your reliable social crutch alcohol. |
| 0:40.0 | On this podcast, I investigate my own deeply dysfunctional dealings with booze and find out what |
| 0:45.4 | it's really like navigating this alcohol-drenched world, one fizzy water at a time. |
| 0:50.6 | I'm going to open up a shame shed of humiliating drinking stories to help you understand why |
| 0:55.4 | waking up with one eyebrow missing and a kebab sticking out of your top pocket might actually |
| 0:59.9 | be negatively impacting your health. So what happens when you put down those cheeky pints and |
| 1:05.5 | finally let go of those rewarding mummy wines? I guess we're just going to have to wait and see. |
| 1:11.7 | I'm Victoria Vanstone and this is sober awkward. All right, let's get this awkward tea party started. Yep, |
| 1:21.7 | today we're talking about sex. I mean, do we have to? Because here's the thing, as a Brit, |
| 1:27.1 | I'm fully comfortable taking the |
| 1:29.3 | piss out of sex. Give me a dodgy pun, a dirty innuendo or a good hide-the-s sausage joke, and I'm |
| 1:35.1 | absolutely thriving. But the second it turns into real honest grown-up conversations about intimacy |
| 1:41.3 | or feelings or connection, I instantly become a child. I start thinking about tea, |
| 1:47.9 | I want to leave the room, I'll probably turn around and go and put the kettle on. I just feel |
| 1:52.6 | uncomfortable. And I think part of that is because if I'm really honest, I didn't really have |
| 1:58.0 | sex sober until I met my husband. Let's face it, I was drunk a lot. |
| 2:03.1 | So that was my only experience of sex until, you know, eight years ago. And I always had assumed |
| 2:10.2 | that the correct procedure was just to grab a stranger off a dance floor, drag them home, |
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