Hey everyone, it's your girl Breene Lee and welcome to the pep talk podcast where we have real, raw, relatable conversations with the pep talk you need.

You have the power to create your future with the choices that you made today.

What do you bring to the table? Baby, I am the table.

Fuck yourself a little bit more than that, ladies. Come on. Dust settles, queens don't. And don't forget,

know your worth and then attacks. Period. Okay, guys, so today I'm going to be talking about

situationships and then I'm going to talk about the young Miami and the ditty situation and the interview they did a few days ago. I want to talk about situationships first because that whole young Miami and ditty situation is literally just that, a situation ship. Like in a situation ship on steroids, it's a situation ship with money, but it's still a situation ship, right? If he's not committed to one woman, which is you, and you guys haven't defined what the relationship is, you guys are in a situation. Let's not get that twisted, okay? I know your mind may be telling you, oh, but no, I'm the, I'm better than the girls that he's dating. Dada, da, da, da, da, I'm the only one.

Well, we've decided that we're only going to talk to each other.

Listen, if you're not his girl, if he's not officially made you his girl,

if there's not mutuality in the relationship, you my sister, you my dear, you my love,

are in a situation ship.

And let's be clear, some people are in situationships out of choice.

So you guys feel like I have the power because I agreed to the situation ship or I initiated

the situation ship because I don't even want to be with this guy.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And I hear you.

I'm not saying that you're lying.

Let's break it down. The truth of the matter, my dear loves, is that we are using situationships as a substitute for true love. And I want us to be honest with ourselves. And in our honesty, I want us to wake the hell up. you are not getting any younger or for some of us, it seems like we're getting more foolish for the things that we are allowing to go on. And I get it. You're single. Men out here, the good ones, very slim. You're not going to meet them every day. They're not going to be at the clubs. They're not going to be at the bars. They're not going to be the ones trying to talk to you in the street. They're not going to be the ones on Instagram.

They're not going to be the ones on dating apps. I get it. Sometimes it can feel mad lonely. Do you find someone finally? And you're attracted to them. You like them. They like the vibe. They make you feel good. You guys are doing like silly little things and it feels good. Ultimately, your emotions are invested because you're getting dopamine hits.

You're feeling good in the moment. You're feeling good. This person's making you feel good. You're not alone anymore. This person's taking you out. You guys are going out together and you feel like you have your person. However, there's no title, either because he decided or you decided that you didn't want to be in a relationship. Whatever is,, there is no title, there's no agreement, it's just vibes, okay? No title, just vibes. That's what a lot of you guys are in, just vibes. But deep down, deep, deep, deep down, because you wouldn't be entertaining the guy that you don't really like like that. And I'm not talking about the, the guys that you're using, right, or for money or for trips or whatever you're using them for. I'm talking about the guys that you've actually, you actually like. And how I know you like them is because you're not dating anybody else or you're not giving your attention to anybody else. You are locked in on this guy and it's just you and him. But there's no safety there because there's no title. There's no definition. And when there's no title, when there's no definition, there's confusion. So there's no rules. Can he talk to other girls? Should he be lacking these photos? Should he call me every day? Should he do this? Should he do that? We don't know because there's no rules. there's no boundaries because there's no title

there's no definition and there's no definition there's only confusion so it is

impossible for you as a woman to ever feel safe in that situation and let me speak to some

of you guys who you would like to be with this person but they did not want a relationship

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