Sinners Married to Sinners Cheryl Scruggs Jae Carpenter Ep 195

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🗓️ 26 February 2018

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

It’s not all sunshine and roses in marriage, even when both you and your husband follow Jesus. My guests today share about one of the most painful possibilities in a marriage —infidelity.

My friend Jae tells her story of learning her husband had an affair and the work God did in both of their lives to restore their marriage. Licensed professional counselor Cheryl Scruggs shares about her infidelity, divorce, and eventual re-marriage, along with a lot of practical advice and scriptures she learned in the seven years she was separated from her husband.

The main takeaway? HOPE. There is hope for your marriage. It’s not easy, because we’re all sinners, but God can heal and restore us when we surrender it all to him.

For all of us in marriage, I think it’s important that we are paying attention. In John 10:10 it says that the thief comes kill, steal and destroy, but I have come to give you life and life abundantly. God wants us to have a great marriage, not easy, not perfect. But it’s really understanding we’re both sinners and how are we going to walk this walk together in this relationship as a sinner married to a sinner.

**If you are in a relationship where you or your children have been physically abused, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or http://www.thehotline.org.

What we chat about:

Cheryl Scruggs and Jae share their marriage stories.
Discovering God’s plans for marriage.
Hope for restoration in marriage even after an affair.
How do you know if God is asking you to stay in a marriage?
Trusting God with your spouse and being open to what he wants to teach you and show you.
Understanding our role as a wife God has called you to be.
Recognizing the situations where it’s necessary to leave a marriage (physical safety, lifestyle of infidelity).
It takes time for healing in marriage.
Physical intimacy throughout marriage conflicts.
Balancing advice from friends and family with what God wants for your marriage.
Biblical roles in marriage.

Scriptures Mentioned:

- Eph. 3:20 – Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us
- Matthew 19:26 – Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
- Deuteronomy 8:1-10 – Be careful to follow every command I am giving you today, so that you may live and increase and may enter and possess the land the Lord promised on oath to your ancestors. Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands… For the Lord your God is bringing you into a good land. [read full passage]
- John 10:10 – The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

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0:00.0	Hey y'all, welcome back to the God Center Mom podcast. I'm your host Heather McFadden,
0:10.3	and this is the place where we remind you through friendship, mentorship, and discipleship
0:15.2	that you don't mom alone. This is episode 195. I'm chatting with mom's Cheryl Scruggs
0:22.2	and Jay Carbender.
0:24.5	And I remember thinking, this is so counterculture for me to want to stay in this marriage.
0:30.1	This is not what everyone is telling me to do, but for some reason, God was making Himself
0:38.2	known to me, and I knew that He was asking me to stay. I knew He was putting a fight and
0:43.9	a strength in me during that time and still does, but during that time especially to hang
0:52.6	on. In this episode, Cheryl, Jay and I sit around a table and chat about marriage, about
0:59.0	how we're just sinners, married to sinners, about how infidelity impacted both of their
1:04.4	marriages. Cheryl and her husband, Jeff, have a marriage ministry called Hope Matters
1:10.1	Marriage Ministry. They've written the book I do again. She has a podcast thriving beyond
1:15.7	belief, and she is so brave in sharing her story here. In my friend Jay, I've walked
1:21.9	through this journey with her, and I'm very proud of her for sharing what God's been
1:26.0	doing in her life. But more than anything, our hope is that this episode reminds you that
1:32.5	fighting for connection in your marriage is important. Valuing your relationship with God,
1:38.6	putting Him above all else is important. And to also remind you that you're not alone
1:44.0	if marriage is hard right now. You're not alone if it's a struggle, you're not alone
1:48.2	if you have had an affair or thinking about it, you're not alone if your spouse has that
1:54.0	more than anything God is for you and He is fighting for you and He has a plan for you.
1:59.8	Truly great conversation coming your way. But before we get to that, let me remind you
2:04.1	about this month's sponsor, PrepDish, y'all, it's a great way to get healthy food for
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