Singles Speak Out: Dating, Shadchanim & The System

Inspiration for the Nation with Yaakov Langer

Living Lchaim

Judaism, Religion, Religion & Spirituality

4.9 • 992 Ratings

🗓️ 1 March 2025

⏱️ 117 minutes

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Summary

Dating in the Jewish world is anything but simple. We sit down with Dovi Neuburger (from Teaneck) & Eli Geller (from Lakewood), for the guys part. Then we (Gitta, my wife joined me) sit down with Nechami Tenenbaum (from Detroit) & Rachel Pekarsky (from Elizabeth, NJ). These four singles have very different experiences and opinions on navigating the shidduch system, dating pressures, and the so-called "shidduch crisis."

We delve into:

- The unspoken rules of matchmaking

- How expectations vs. reality can break people

- The stigma of being single in the community

- Are matchmakers helping or hurting the process?

- The brutal truth about dating apps vs. traditional setups

Transcript

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0:00.0	People call it a shithch crisis.
0:01.2	Like, I know Reuben Feinstein is like very anti-calling it a crisis just for one simple thing.
0:05.3	It's like there's so many other things that Klaissela has plagued with.
0:08.1	And yet we don't label a crisis.
0:09.2	I've never heard anybody calling it the cancer crisis, even though there's probably more people
0:12.3	that are suffering with that Mahala than people that are actually still single.
0:16.0	You're not playing God. and God, I think you need to trust the single a lot more. There needs to be a lot more trust.
0:21.3	If you think someone's ready to get married,
0:23.0	and again, if you don't think they're ready to get married,
0:24.5	don't set them up.
0:25.1	But if you do, you've got to trust their ability
0:27.5	to determine what's good for them and what they want.
0:30.4	I actually think that as a general thing,
0:33.3	the system is actually really great. Our system. I think it's the people who make it not so great sometimes.
0:41.3	There are some people that have Chad Khanaman retainer.
0:44.3	I heard recently someone is charging $11,000 for three months to guarantee you a Z.
0:52.3	This episode is jam-packed with really different viewpoints as to what it's like to navigate
0:56.8	being single. We hear perspectives from the guys and the gals, and you'll see how each conversation
1:02.4	is really different, and that makes sense. Our goal is so we can all be more thoughtful and
1:06.9	empathetic. You're getting a really raw, honest, vulnerable look into the perspective,
1:11.5	so please be kind in the comments section. We really want to hear what you have to say,
1:15.7	so give us your feedback in the comments, whether you're single, parents of a single,
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