So I agree I don't think you wouldn't want to rattle off your list because you don't want it to be performative

Then at the same time I think it's important before you get too emotionally involved

to see how a man responds when you're trying to teach him how to love you.

I'm all that. So if you're not giving any instruction then you won't be able to see how he responds to when you're trying

to guide him on a way to express a love he feels. But he has to be taught on how to deliver that love in a way that

lands in your heart and if you're gonna have a long-term relationship so you look at over two decades here and if you're going to have a long-term relationship, so you look at over two decades here,

and if you're going to have a long-term relationship,

you're going to hear seasons where he's got to be retaught.

Yes, sir.

Because you're going to become a version of life is going to change you in ways, that you become

a different version of yourself that now has different needs, and you're going to have to have

somebody that is flexible enough to be able to adapt

and to give you what you need in this season so that you're not in a relationship,

getting what you used to need.

The greatest depth of learning takes place

through conversations.

And that's what tonight is all about.

That's why I asked when I had this idea

to have a singles night.

That's why I hit the Terrace and said,

hey, would you come?

Because I want you to facilitate conversations

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