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This is John Fuller along with Danny Werta.

Danny's a licensed clinical social worker and leads our parenting department here at

focus on the family and Danny we'll want to protect our kids from

discomfort. I mean I think that's a parent's natural instinct and we know God can use difficult situations to help our kids kind of learn more about themselves and about him

But learn more about themselves and about him. But let's say I have a teen and it's really painful and I want to help but I mean it's a tough one because I don't want to overcompensate and I don't want to you

know mess things up how do I handle a teen who's hurting?

Yeah this is about the big word resiliency right?

Developing a resilient life or resilient child.

And the way that you enter that space as a parent is you begin by listening to what really is the

issue and to be fully present and spending time with your child as you process.

What is really the difficulty?

And we can't be allergic to bad emotions or to difficult emotions. they're going to come.

And for a child, when they come up,

you want to help them understand what it is

and then talk about how to respond to them because they still have a lot of

power to respond to what is happening and this can be an opportunity for growth so

it's you putting a new frame right right? We talked about reframing moments and you're truly putting a brand new frame.

You could even draw that if you're very creative. Draw a wooden frame or whatever to the situation where you're going to create a new

picture for your child of what they're seeing and helping them process what it is that they're

truly seeing.

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